Neighbour telling me the workman said I was lovely.

[Oooahhhjustalilbit]

Neighbour is having some work done to her garden. I presume it's a team of landscape gardeners. I leave my house. One particular Chap says good morning and asks how I am. My son's taken an interest in his truck so I have to stop and let him have a peek.
I was coming back home this morning with my son and I said hello are you ok to my neighbour. The bloke joined in and made a comment on my son. Just small talk. Nothing big. I get back in my house and get a message from the neighbour saying the workmen was saying how lovely you are.

I live here with my partner and kids. This blokes probably around my age to five years older.

Not sure why she messaged me. Not sure why he said that to her. Not sure if I am being perved on or if he was just being nice. Which is really weird as I've literally said hello you alright and he has spoke to my lad (2 sentences)

Need to go out again in abit but feel abit awks

Am I being silly? Didn't know if I've given him the wrong impression. Wasn't my intention.

What does it means when someone informs your neighbour you are lovely and she passes it on.

MASSIVE overreaction!!! Like “oh, it’s so nice to have lovely neighbours!”, nothing weird or creepy or out of the ordinary about it? Either for the builder to say, or neighbour to text—basically says thanks for being lovely about the bit of disruption, not everyone is so lucky with their neighbours

@BronwenFrideswide

I've always laughingly dismissed the idea that no-one dare say anything to anyone anymore for fear of a completely unwarranted reaction and then along comes this OP and I understand what they are getting at.

Seriously, OP, someone said something nice about you and your neighbour thought it would be nice to pass it on to you and this is how you view it? Silly doesn't cover it.

But it's the neighbour who is being weird here, not the gardener. If your plumber remarked in passing on the niceness of your next-door neighbour, would you be so impressed by this that you text said neighbour to let them know?

Well he hardly called you a milf did he?
Lovely is how you describe someone who is a nice person, it’s completely A sexual.
I would just take it as a compliment and move on.
Maybe he was saying to the neighbour ooohhhah is lovely (unlike you)

What about replying,
"Well compared with all the ugly, old duffers round here I suppose I am - no offence"

'Lovely' usually means things like 'friendly' or 'helpful'. It is not come-on!

If someone said that to me about a neighbour I'd be sure to tell them as it's a nice compliment, like 'She's lovely, and her lad is bonny, what nice neighbours you have!'

I caught my workmen giggling and doing happy fistbumps to eachother after I met them wearing shorts and strappy top, and offered them tea, took it with a smile, its a compliment whether they meant it as "hot" or lovely personality!

What do you want it to mean, OP?!

Gatelodge I don't see anything odd or weird about the neighbour passing it on, if a plumber working at my house had been chatting to my neighbour and their son and remarked how lovely they were then yes I would tell my neighbour, why not? The only difference being I probably wouldn't text them but would tell them face to face next time I saw them.

@Oooahhhjustalilbit

Yep, you are being a bit silly and overthinking it.

I am very sociable and stop and chat to lots of people. I've also been called lovely and really nice several times by people from early twenties to eighties.... I don't assume that any of them fancy me though... 😉

If he was handsome or she noticed sexual tension she coupd be saying it to tease you or because she thinks its hilarious. Its hard to judge tones and intentions from second hand and biased description of what happened.

@Gatelodge
But it's the neighbour who is being weird here, not the gardener. If your plumber remarked in passing on the niceness of your next-door neighbour, would you be so impressed by this that you text said neighbour to let them know?

Yes, why not? It’s a nice thing to do, passing on a compliment.

I swear, MN is full of weirdos and socially awkward people who have a hard time thinking outside the box or outside of themselves.

I don't know why your neighbour would text you this, I find that a bit strange. I don't think the workmen commenting that you're lovely is something to read into, sounds more conversational than anything more.

Just found it odd that she messaged me on Facebook to just say that. There's honestly been hardly any Chat. They are really macho men too. Not your Alan titchmarch type lol.

Don't want it to mean anything. I feel just abit uncomfortable about it as I would find it odd if the neighbour told my partner a female group outside thought he was lovely.

Sure it meant nothing anyway. I think it was her message that threw me.