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I hate the way I look.

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drained16 · 17/09/2020 10:22

Like I literally hate the way I look. I was in an abusive relationship when I was 18 and he broke my nose so my nose is completely wonky. I absolutely hate it, when I'm walking past people in the street I'll put my head down so they can't see my face. I won't look at people in the eye, which comes across rude!

I won't let anyone take pictures of my so I have no pictures of me and my 18 month old son together.

I think if my son wasn't here I probably wouldn't want to be here either. This may sound stupid but this is how strongly I feel. I see so many gorgeous beautiful women and I just think. Why can I look like that?

I'm in a 4 year relationship with an absolutely beautiful man, like he is so good looking and I just think why are you with me? Like you can do so much better!!!!

I can't afford surgery to sort my face out so that's not an option I just don't know why to do to make myself feel better

OP posts:
Frownette · 17/09/2020 10:25

Does it affect breathing at all?

Your son and your partner love you as you are.

PercythePile · 17/09/2020 10:34

Have you considered counselling to deal with your past abusive relationship? Abuse can severely affect you and your sense of self. Its sounds as though you don't have a healthy perspective of how you look. Your partner loves you just as you are. You need to learn to love yourself as well Flowers

TweetUsOnFacebook · 17/09/2020 10:34

OP, loads of us don't like the way we look. Remember your dp and your son love you just the way you are. It's so sad you don't have photos with your son. Can you get your dp to take some? Instead of posed ones get him to take his time taking lots at lots of different angles while you're playing with him. Outdoor light is usually the most flattering. I'm sure there will be one you'll be happy with and that will give you a boost.
A good haircut can work wonders too and maybe have a look at your make up and give it an update? YouTube make up tutorials can be really helpful.
If it's getting you down really badly and affecting all areas of your life maybe it's time to speak to your gp about getting some counselling. The abuse from your ex could be causing some issues that taking through with a professional could help Flowers

LuckyAmy1986 · 17/09/2020 10:35

Re your nose - I would see your GP if I were you, if it's affecting your mental health which is sounds like it is, massively. You might not be able to pay for surgery yourself but you never know, it might be worth having the conversation and see if there are any options available on the NHS? If you have a really nice doctor who you feel you can be open with that is. Does it affect your breathing or anything like that? I'm sorry for what you've been through, sounds really tough. But your OH wouldn't be with you if he didn't want to be! To him and your son your are beautiful no matter what.

sugarlost · 17/09/2020 10:42

Sorry to hear how you're feeling OP.
I think counselling is a good Idea.

I feel the same as you and was teased growing up about my looks. I haven't got a partner or children.

I struggle at looking at people directly too but I try and put on a happy face...this is also connected to bullying I experienced.

I had counselling in the past.

I try and plan things with friends to keep me going and I enjoy my own company at times. I'm lucky I'm not in a abusive relationship anymore.

I hope you feel happier soon. It's not easy but with support it can help. X

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