Sorry for posting here but I really need advice quickly as I'm climbing the walls and dh is out looking for him. Ds attitude has been really bad lately, he's full of rage, swearing, disrespectful and angry, hes very much up and down. I've found out he's been smoking and basically has got into the wrong crowd who are older and who also get into fights. We have also had money go missing although can't be 100% sure its him. We had a big row as I didn't want him going out after school, he's ill, been going bed late, not eating and just pushing the boundaries with everything. I've taken his phone off him but now he's gone awol and threatening not to not come back. He's squared up to dh, climbed over the fence when I tried to stop him leaving and I've literally lost control and have no idea what to do 😔
I know I haven't handled it well but he was so horrible and hitting his door, banging furniture, calling us twats etc it is so hard not to bite back. But he's not a child so can't put him in time away. I've tried talking to him but it hasn't worked. What do I do I'm sat here crying.