Kids school pick up

[Buzlightyear1]

Hi so not. Sure if this is the right place. I have just done my online application for my sons school.

My ex is on the birth certificate, he’s only allowed supervised visits due to his behaviour. The social services agree as he is a drug addict, and agresive. I’m worried about school pick ups as I don’t trust him. He’s from Lebanon where he has threatened to take our son and I would never get him back. I do believe if he had the opportunity he would.

When I do get into a school what do I do ? Will they be able to ensure he is not allowed to pick up our son.

Yes. There is always space in the form (once you get into the school) for you to specify these issues. This will be recorded well in advance of school starting, and they will not release the child to anyone who isn't on the form. I would also phone and explain the situation to them in detail as they will then be extra careful. Don't worry.

There is a legal document you can get (think it’s called prohibited steps) that stops a parent taking a child out of the country. Definitely suggest you look into getting one as it’s notoriously difficult (near impossible) to get children back home once they’ve been taken. If you have had advice from social services they may be able to advise. If his behaviour is very bad you could also get a non molestation order.

Thank you. Honestly you have just saved me so much stress. I was so worried. Thank you

Brilliant I will look in to that as well. Thank you. I’m so stressed out by him. I know he’s capable of anything. So I want to protect my son. If he took him there is no way I would get him back . Which is what scares me so much. Thank you

Before he actually starts school I would make an appointment and take a copy of the court ordered arrangements and explain that DS is an abduction risk and as per the order his father is not permitted unsupervised contact despite having parental responsibility.

Ask what procedures they have in place to ensure that only you will be able to collect him. Do they want a photo, how do they flag to other staff including any emergency supply of the situation.

This is me being hyper cautious but I think a necessary conversation you with the school. Hopefully they will already have good practices in place and can reassure you.

Yes to the prohibitive steps and have you flagged his passport up as at risk of abduction?? This is something to explore and presumably if you had a prohibitive steps order the documentation can be sent to state he should only be travelling with his mother?

You need to ensure he doesn't report his passport as lost and get a replacement.

Thank you both. That is a good suggestion about the photo. I will definitely do that. I will try and speak to the head teacher to discuss this in depth. Hopefully they will have a procedure In place already. I definitely want to make sure that no mistake are made with this though. He’s dangerous he just makes awful decisions with reguards to safety as well.

That is something I’m worried about if he tried to report our sins passport lost or stolen. Could he get a new one with out me ?