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Would you be insulted, or sad if..

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L15c · 15/09/2020 05:49

Your boss didn't take the time to say "Goodbye and Good luck" as you moved on to a new job?

How about if you had several bosses who didn't even acknowledge you were leaving?

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caughtalightsneeze · 15/09/2020 06:00

It would depend if I had thought I was a valued employee. If I thought I had been valued when I worked there I'd be really disappointed to be ignored.

If I had been treated like crap throughout my employment I'd be relieved not to face the hypocrisy of a leaving present and card.

Landlubber2019 · 15/09/2020 06:01

I remember working for a company which closed the office leaving about 200 people without a job. We spent the first half of our 12 wk notice period preparing for the office closure and the second half playing solitaire. I remember the last day, absolutely nothing to do and at 2pm they insisted we did a final clean and could then go.

The bitterness as we all left with building was palpable.

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L15c · 15/09/2020 06:32

Well, I was sat down and asked not to leave, told that I was the best person they had at certain aspects of the job and how much they wanted me to say, so I had assumed that I had some value. Not enough apparently though. I should add that the word "brilliant" was used of me (and believe me it never has been before). Makes you wonder what is required to receive a good luck and goodbye.

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caughtalightsneeze · 15/09/2020 06:37

They resent you moving on. They may well think you are brilliant. Or they may just have been trying to flatter you into staying. But one way or another, ultimately they are angry that you have had the audacity to leave.

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L15c · 15/09/2020 06:42

People move on all the time. And actually, people would stay if things were better.. I certainly would have done. I think it reflects very badly on a company and a culture to not acknowledge someone who has worked hard for you, regardless of how you feel about them.

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eaglejulesk · 15/09/2020 06:44

I totally agree with this - I've been there!

Raindropsonrosesand · 15/09/2020 06:45

Sometimes people are crap/make mistakes - either due to poor personal skills or just a bad day.

Your boss is just a person. You have a new job, and you know your value.

Good luck in your new job!

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L15c · 15/09/2020 06:49

Agreed. I'm angry though, and possibly little bit (LOT ) bitter . Lesson learned though.

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Tonightstheteriyakichicken · 15/09/2020 06:56

Talk is cheap. I was assured of all kinds of incentives to stay in one job. But after being passed over for promotion when I had filled in for someone in that role for months, I realised that they were happy to keep me at my lower pay grade for as long as I tolerated it. I felt naive for having trotted along after a carrot for as long as I did. The manager's classic parting words were, "I think you're making a big mistake". Wrong!

Good luck with your new job.

Sunnydayhere · 15/09/2020 07:05

Happened to me..... BUT my boss had engineered my leaving. My union would have supported me in court - and encouraged me to take her there.

If she’d spoken my second word might have been OFF and I wanted to keep the higher moral ground.

Good send off from my mates though and that’s what counted.

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L15c · 15/09/2020 07:09

I wasn't looking for a present or a card or anything. Just an acknowledgement in the form of a simple goodbye.

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Littlepond · 15/09/2020 07:15

The last school I worked at I left because I was bullied by the head teacher and the rest of SLT ignored it because they didn’t want to deal with it.

From the day I announced I had a new job and was leaving the deputy head did not speak one more word to me and would actively ignore me in the corridors etc. The SENCO who I’d worked closely with didn't even sign my card. My friend got some kids to take the card into the head teacher to sign and she wrote “good luck in your new role”.

I got no thank you, no acknowledgment and I had worked HARD at that school.

The leaving card and gift were organised by my friends.

SLT didn’t tell any of the kids or parents I was leaving so it looked like I had left suddenly and the rumours were that I’d been fired. My friends had asked the head if they could say something in assembly and the head said no.

Horrendous place.

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L15c · 15/09/2020 07:19

I'm really sorry for everyone who has experienced this. It's cruel really, and unnecessary.

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LUZON · 15/09/2020 07:25

That is really mean and thoughtless iof them. It says at lot about them.

I hope you have found or will find somewhere better.

Pelleas · 15/09/2020 07:29

I'd think they were a bit rude.

But ultimately, you are moving on, your professional relationship is at an end, so your boss no longer has a reason to be pleasant to you, if he or she has no personal liking for you.

caughtalightsneeze · 15/09/2020 07:31

I resigned from a job years ago whilst on maternity leave. The manager didn't tell my colleagues that I had resigned. There was a very heavy workload and colleagues were asking for extra help and at staff meetings they kept being told that they had to remember that I would be back soon. Over a year later one of my colleagues eventually asked why they were being lied to, as they knew I had started a new job months earlier. Manager mumbled something about staff morale

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L15c · 15/09/2020 07:39

It's not about personal liking though, is it? It's basic human courtesy.

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Pelleas · 15/09/2020 07:47

@L15c

It's not about personal liking though, is it? It's basic human courtesy.

Yes, which is why I said I'd think it was rude.

I wouldn't be hurt by the fact someone else is mannerless, though.

Brunilde · 15/09/2020 07:55

Yes but I wouldn't be surprised from my company.

Pipsqueakpopsqueak · 15/09/2020 09:25

Yes, I’ve been there. I was in my last job just shy of 10 years and my ex boss (who I worked closely with) didn’t have the decency to say good luck and goodbye. He had form for sulking when someone left - just confirmed I was doing the right thing.

Hotwaterbottlelove · 15/09/2020 09:48

Ah, that would feel rubbish. Leaving is always a funny set of emotions. People react differently.

I had the opposite once OP. My boss bullied me out, badly impacted my mental health. HR and external consultants involved etc. On my last day she bought me a huge bunch of flowers and flung her arms around me saying how sad she was. We were alone so it wasn't even a show for others. It was horrible for me.

In a week you won't care.

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