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Crazy situation...was he the one that got away? :(

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Cubes11 · 14/09/2020 17:21

In a nutshell, I dated someone and ended things a year ago. We started talking in January and got much closer, met a few times, kissed etc. Then by March it turns out his one night stand of six months prior was about to have his baby. He carried on seeing me for a few weeks after he found out, unbeknown to me, and during this time he became aggressive and angry and questioned me about why we broke up, saying actually he wasn’t sure he wanted to be with me now, on reflection I had messed him about and he’d moved on with life and that I should now have to accept the regret of having ended things with him a year back. Also told me I wouldn’t find anyone better and it was obvious that was clear to me now and tough luck. Of course once I found out (on social media !!!) that he was expecting this baby in a matter of weeks, I confronted him and he said he had told me he was having doubts since we rekindled things in January... which was a load of shit as I know the date he found out about the pregnancy (yes I checked his phone) and it was end of March when he started getting nasty with me. Before then he had been totally into us getting back together. It seems this woman hadn’t told him about the baby until the last minute as she wasnt sure it was his.

Anyway, they’ve since moved in together and I’ve seen photos online (should have blocked him sooner). I feel cut up about it all as his words have stuck with me that maybe he was the one for me and I messed it up by ending things the first time round?! It also makes me feel sick that he gets this happy ending after having lied to me earlier this year when I was putting my all into things with him. Now he gets a ready made family. I know I sound bitter.

Argh just wanted to talk it through I suppose... what if he was the one that got away?

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AlternativePerspective · 14/09/2020 17:23

You’ve posted this before haven’t you?

Itisbetter · 14/09/2020 17:24

Don’t be ridiculous his life has taken a huge swerve and he’s making what he can of it. There are many other men in the world, find someone free to be who you need.

Joopy · 14/09/2020 17:25

You can do better

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Cubes11 · 14/09/2020 17:26

Maybe joopy but technically he’s not done anything wrong

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JustDoinTheDo · 14/09/2020 17:29

He sounds like a prick. How can you not see you’ve dodged a bullet here?!

Cubes11 · 14/09/2020 17:30

His crime was a one night stand. Just feel sad that he could well be right that I shouldn’t have ended things originally.

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Frownette · 14/09/2020 17:31

No much better things await. Don't sit around pining for him.

KurriKawari · 14/09/2020 18:01

He sounds horrible. Ok he had a one night. Fine the girl was pregnant. That doesn't excuse him saying horrible things to you and becoming "aggressive and angry".

Notverybright · 14/09/2020 18:05

If he was getting aggressive with you and telling you that you couldn’t do better than him he’s not the one for you. Those are red flags for abusive behaviour.

Iconical · 14/09/2020 18:17

Sorry it wasn’t a 1 night stand

He had been shagging her for months
You were probably the OW

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 14/09/2020 18:30

He didn’t get away - you never caught him in the first place.

borntohula · 14/09/2020 18:32

Saying you wouldn't get any better kind of makes him not a nice person.

WildAboutMyPlanet · 14/09/2020 18:49

He sounds awful! He has treated you terribly and after only 2 or 3 months, how can you miss him?

What else is going on in your life? Are you lonely? He really sounds like a dick, you dodged a bullet.

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