Was thinking about this today as I sometimes do, because I remember having my first baby and a number of medical students traipsed in right at the end to watch.
It still bothers me that they all came in - I don't even know how many there were and can't remember their faces or anything. But I remember reading somewhere that as part of their training they 'need' to see a certain number of women give birth.
But why? I get that it's exciting and amazing to watch, and if you do go into obstetrics then you need to be there, but why do medical students - most of whom will never deliver a baby in their future careers - 'need' to be there? Surely with YouTube etc there are plenty of opportunities to see a baby being born without having to crowd into an already fraught room simply to stand around staring.
Looking back I wish I'd said can all these random strangers leave, but I was too exhausted and afterwards too busy with the baby to bring it up.
I know that many women will say they don't care who was there, but it does feel to me like an old-fashioned and somewhat entitled practice that doesn't serve birthing women and isn't that necessary from a learning perspective anyway, unless people go into that field. Or at least, should the learning value be balanced against the right to some privacy for the mother.
I know you can say no and I did for my second baby, but I did feel a pressure to be OK about students for my first, and looking back, I just don't think they would have learned much from simply watching anyway, or could have learned just as well from other sources that didn't involve me!