A year or so I ended a relatively short relationship of two years with someone I have known really my whole life. I wasn’t in the right mindset and he very much wanted to settle there and then and didn’t give me any space to do things I wanted to do like travel etc. For these reasons I ended it and we stayed friends from a distance, talking often on the phone and messaging. During covid I was staying with family, very close to where he lives. We met up a few times for a socially distanced walk and then after lockdown went for a drink, a week ago. None of this was at all romantic talk or meet ups, though we had grown closer I guess. The meet up wasn’t a date.
We sit in the pub and its a little more cosy. I asked if he ever thought about us in that way, he said yes. Then suddenly he started to get quite combative. He said he would have given me everything and that I treated him badly for ending things. I was defensive here and simply said that I did what I thought was right at the time for us both. In fact I hadn’t dated anyone since I broke up with him , there was never someone waiting in the wings, I just wanted to do some things for me at that time.
He then tells me he has a woman moving in with him in a week because she’s having his baby!!! I asked why he hadn’t told me and he said he didn’t have to tell me everything, it was none of my business and that it was a one night stand but now they are going to make a go of it and that was my fault, my loss and ‘I made my bed so I should lie in it’?! He seemed angry with me that I had ended things but I don’t understand it as we have been friends since then.
I don’t know what I’m asking really. Guess I just feel hurt and confused by him and like the friendship is clearly gone forever. I just don’t know why on Earth he would meet me like that and be friendly only to suddenly turn on me when he’s having a child. I would have been happy for him but didn’t get the chance as he was so fast to bite my head off!