I would like to offer up an answer based on having both conditions in our house. I hope this is of more use.
Autism and ADHD are both about neuro diversity, differences in wiring, and experiencing sensation differently from the majority.
There is a well worn cliche that if you meet someone who is Austistic, you’ve only met one kind of Autistic person. Being autistic impacts on numerous parts of your life, and millions of difference behaviours, some more than others, and yet others will have intellectual disability too.
There are a lot of children who are autistic who also show ADHD symptoms. Frankly, I have never met a child with ADHD that didn’t also tick lots of boxes for ASD. I have a feeling that we will end up with an awful lot of kids who get the ASD diagnosis having first been thought ADHD, and that it just depends on which characteristics are most obvious/cause the most impact.
It is amazing that they are assessing all of this together, that they are professionally resilient enough to change their minds, and that they are telling you their thoughts as they occur. Even if it has left you confused!
I can only recommend, seek out work by autistic adults. There are incredibly qualified academics and clinicians who have studied this their whole lives, but in terms of actually understanding what it all entails, how it feels to be neurodiverse, and what might happen in your child’s future, keep a close eye on those who have lived it every day.
Good luck, it’s a roller coaster, but there is more information than ever.
Look at the book Neurotribes, and try Searching Austism/TedX talks on YouTube, you’ll find many great talks there which can help you understand the differences and similarities.