Wondering what it would be like to have a child of the opposite sex?

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I have 1 child and due a second. Both girls. Truly over the moon about this. Baby is healthy and DD is my utter joy.

We’re very much a 2 and done situation but the further into my pregnancy I get the more I wonder what it would be like to have a son?

Not enough to push me to consider a third, but just a general wonderment.

I imagine in the early years it makes no difference at all, but is there a difference as they get older?

I don’t want to sound like I’m disappointed with a second DD because I honestly am really pleased - I think the fact I know this is my last is playing more on mind and causing this train of thought.

Anyone else ever think about this?

Well i have one of each. And have never experience to of them same gender, so could ask you the same

I have a DD and DSs. They're all individuals - their sex makes no difference to who they are other than DD is a more argumentative teen than DSs and (according to the book I've been reading about teen behaviour) that's apparently more common in girls. I'm hoping it will pass

I dont mean to trivialise it, because I know people feel quite strongly about the sex of their children.

But for me personally, not really. I have two boys, but they are themselves not just a 'boy', if you see what I mean. So i dont think about a hypothetical daughter anymore than i think about a hypothetical brown eyed child because until she got here I wouldn't know what she'd be like to dream about her!

Although I do sometimes think it would be nice to have one of those children who sat down occasionally

Its rarely as you imagine it I guess? I have 3 boys and hate the rain and mud so we never did football or whatever stereotype things we should do. All three boys are quite different too.

I do think you get used to a certain set up and becomes very stable and comforting in it's own way. So we all probably going around, looking at others set ups and thinking "I wonder what that's like, having three girls" etc.

I think thats quite normal.

I do think you get used to a certain set up and becomes very stable and comforting in it's own way. So we all probably going around, looking at others set ups and thinking "I wonder what that's like, having three girls" etc.

I suppose this is it, the idea of having two girls is so set into my mind now I’m questioning other set ups - thanks for that!

And yes Cormoran I suppose you could. I’m blinkered to my own situation and didn’t even consider that

My boy is now 15 and I have two girls.
I think boys are so different to girls.

Girls can strop so easily but he’s never done that once.
Girls will be sensitive to friends- fall out, be clingy, show all emotions.
Boys do not care. They have friends and that’s that.
Girls are expensive from a young age I think. Boys are only expensive when brand names become important (the trainers he must wear are over £180!)
Girls puberty can be a bloody nightmare- cry for no reason, lots of drama etc.
Boys puberty- one day their voice is suddenly deeper and that’s all you notice.

I could go on.

No offence to my son but if I was going to have two of the same sex I would choose girls simply Because they’re more loving and caring

I think it’s very hard to generalise. I have 4 boys, they are all very different from one another.

ItchyScratchy- that girl you described was my elder brother! The strops, the friendship dramas, the sudden tearfulness in puberty. In fact he hasn't really changed much since- and he's 60! I still get the ups and downs of his family relationships, including every detail about his feelings until I find the strength to put the phone down! The rest of us (2 boys and 1 girl) never had the energy for all that emotion.

I have 3 boys and they are all very different to each other. Boys can be sensitive and stroppy and girls can be more relaxed and easy going.

Yes! It would be a different experience having a boy.

Because it would be a different child.

You’ll find your DD2 is different from your DD1. Because she is a different child.

itchy scratchy. No my boy is more loving than my girl. You are talking about your experience and are generalising.

People are different.

We don't get to choose the sex of our children no more than we do their personalities.

I have two boys. Always wanted two boys and they are the best of friends - most of the time!
Thankfully have no desire for a girl but people assume I do

I've got 6 kids and one on the way! Currently have 3 boys and 3 girls, my eldest is referring to baby #7 as the tiebreaker 😂
They are all very different individuals, lots of arguments and emotions but they get on so well at times.