DS just told me he’s gay

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DS (15) told me he is gay. I’m not sure how to feel about it, my initial reaction was to shrug and say so what, I like guys too.
What can I do to support DS who feels vulnerable and in a minority group to ensure his mental health is ok etc.

Feel pleased that he felt comfortable enough to share this with you? I’m sure it was a big step, and it’s nice to be trusted with this info.

That’s true, I am glad he came to me, not sure how long it took him to approach me but glad he did. Though I did ask if anyone else knew and he said oh yeah and reeled off a few names!

Tell him you love him, accept him and are happy he felt he could talk to you. Tell him to come to you if he has any questions, and you can either find the answers together or can find someone else who can help. Make sure he knows that there is nothing he can tell you that would make you love him any less.

Thanks that’s a good idea

Just do exactly what you have done; love him and keep on communicating openly. I love how comfortable he must be to be able to have that conversation with you; that's just as it should be.

Give him a big hug and tell him everything will be ok

Will do thanks

My eldest is gay, we knew years before he came out.
Best thing ever as it meant he could be himself.
I have a best friend who is gay and a teacher and he offers counseling in school, maybe contact your son's school to see if their is any support there.
But it's not a big thing as it should be no different than him telling you he likes mayonnaise and not ketchup.

That’s what I thought but then worried that I should be taking it more seriously

Jeez that is some shit first rection you gave him op. Go to him and apologize. And tell you accept him and love him no matter what. And how happy you are for him that he came out and that he feels he can share that with you .

My son told me he was gay at 15 OP so I have been there. To this day I remember the exact conversation..
Hi Mum do you have a minute need to tell you something
Yep ok what is it sweetheart
Well err I am gay and I am fine and I want you to be fine too cos it isnt going to change
Err (picking myself up off the floor) Are you sure? really sure?Do you wan tot talk to someone about this to make sure?
I am talking to someone about this its you and yes I am sure are you ok
Ofcourse I am ok ,,when did you realise this?
Known all my life mum ,,didnt you suspect anything
No my darling not a thing no clue
Are you ok with me mum?
Of course I am you daft sod I love you and want you to be happy It doesnt matter one iota to me
Oh cool mum thats it then sorted ..whats for tea I am starving

He went out that evening with his friends and my heart broke and oh how I cried I cant tell you.I cried for him.for me for the grandchildren I wouldnt have,for the fear of him being abused for hi sexuality well for everything I just cried.
Non of my fears ever came true though.I have the most very best super educated,high flying ,immaculately dresses,happy contented son a mum could wish for.He is mine and he is a fine gentleman by anyones standards and I am so super proud of the man he has grown up to be.He is 30 this year and well I will say again he is an amazing individual.He now has an amazing job,has a long term partner who is a teacher they have just bought a flat sorry apartment for half a million quid,have an amazing life together,go on fabulous holidays and they laugh together constantly.Even now though if he hadnt told me I would never have known he was gay but he is and the most very important thing ever he still is my son. Your son like mine will find his own way to be happy and safe and secure and to have a good life.All you need to do is keep loving him as you always have done and neither of you will go wrong I promise you.You have had a shock but he has been so brave to tell you and he must love and trust you very much so that indicates you are a fab mum and you will both be ok...sure of it.