Anyone else make a great ex?

[Settleandcalm]

I’ve just realised I’m an amazing ex, this week last couple of weeks I’ve:

• talked ex DH through being worried about some family Illness, though he’s the father of the kids so that’s expected.

• talked to someone I dated a few times about some concerns he has over his sons school anxieties

• talked to last years ex about his full lockdown stresses and cheered him up

• just helped my 6 months rebound guy fill in some housing forms he needs for him and his boy

• have been talking to someone for a year who was supposed to be a FWB about the dark depths he is hitting facing up to some trauma and trying to support him just by being a voice in the dark

I think I may be the best ex ever, and none of you can take my crown!

Does anyone else have this from online dating, that you just sort of gain a myriad of men friends, but not an actual boyfriend? Starting to think I’m an awesome ex and a terrible girlfriend

Why are you still in touch with so many ex's on such a personal level. Not sure if it's just me but I find that strange.

No idea to be honest. I just seem to make friends!

You’re investing a lot of time into exes! What do you get out of it?
I’d understand a few.... but not so many and on such a deep level, I’d find that exhausting to be honest and would be looking at healthy boundaries.
Sorry if that sounds condescending, I don’t mean it to, it’s just a bit alarming.
However if you’re totally happy with it then great :)

It was sort of meant to be lighthearted, but hate putting that phrase in!

It doesn’t really drain anything from me, I think I’m naturally a good listener but don’t let anything bother me. I suppose I wanted to know if it is unusual, I have my answer. I tend to get messages from quite a few people who have never really gone beyond a few dates on a regular basis, sometimes months later!

I’m not sure why. I don’t give more than I can, and find the bit of social contact ok, some are fun because it’s general messaging about fun stuff too not all the “help” stuff. Just thinking that of anyone I’ve connected with over the last 5 years, there is only one I don’t ever speak to because he was an arse so I instantly blocked.

Now I think I might be odd!

You're not odd and my friend is the same. She's been on online dating for a while. She never seems to meet anyone for a longterm relationship but she has remained in contact as friends with many of the men she has been on dates with. She's a genuinely lovely person and people gravitate towards her.

I’m friends with all my exes apart from the abusive twat. Spend Christmas with my first husband and talk three or four times a week. Chat with first serious boyfriend from forty years ago.

Oh good I’m not odd!

I'm friends with a lot of mine. One of them comes to visit sometimes and gets on really well with my DH.