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Would you allow your child to come to this party?

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Teacher12345 · 08/09/2020 17:34

DD turns 5 soon, just started school.

Pre-covid, I promised a party and she has been banging on about it since! I have found an option that as a parent, I think I would be okay with, just not sure others would agree so would appreciate your views. It is this or nothing as I feel this is the safest option I have found for an autmn party.
The local trampoline park does an under 5's session at 9am on a saturday morning. It is the first session of the day (so the cleanest) and quietest due to time and, as they are strict on the ages so if you have 2 kids, ages 6 & 4, they would not allow them on together.
They get an hour play and then sandwiches and I would probably do packaged sweets instead of a party bag so parents could wipe them down. I would only be inviting kids from their class so in the same "bubble" as they spend mon-fri.
Would you let your child attend?

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LesLavandes · 08/09/2020 18:21

Buy a book that can either be read to them or read to them - like a ladybird book

LesLavandes · 08/09/2020 18:21

Sorry ... or they can read

dollypartonscoat · 08/09/2020 18:22

"Books, craft kits, a small toy, stationery. I do usually relent to a fun size chocolate/biscuit pack and bubbles!"

A normal party bag full of the usual tat then? Grin

OP stick with the sealed bag of haribo!

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stovetopespresso · 08/09/2020 18:23

yes, carpe diem within reason where kids are concerned...though I've been invited to the pub this week and probably won't go

PunkAssMoFo · 08/09/2020 18:34

Only one of those with a chocolate.

By tat i mean the whistles, hooters, clappers and all of the little plastic stuff that is generally binned, lost or broken I think a few hours. By small toy I meant I would maybe include one toy car or Something like that (instead of book etc).

Stinkyjellycat · 08/09/2020 18:37

I’d go. There’s no difference between this and attending nursery or school in my opinion.

BogRollBOGOF · 08/09/2020 18:42

Sounds good.
The good news is that Covid 19 hasn't evolved the intelligence to pounce on children at a trampoline park whilst refraining from contaminating them at school. The risk is the same.
Siblings make no difference either as they still cross the bubbles day to day.
Child is safer having their classmates at the trampoline park as a group booking than just as a casual public session as they are exposed to far fewer unfamilar people in that environment.

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Teacher12345 · 08/09/2020 19:04

@BogRollBOGOF this is my arguement but DH is now doing a U-turn saying he doesn't think we should!

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FraterculaArctica · 08/09/2020 19:08

No, because I can't see how it could be done in a way that was compatible with the socialising guidance (assuming you are in England). I am not letting my year 2 child go to a class meet up in the park this week for the same reason.

Stompythedinosaur · 08/09/2020 19:22

The good news is that Covid 19 hasn't evolved the intelligence to pounce on children at a trampoline park whilst refraining from contaminating them at school. The risk is the same.

The thing is, that it isn't the same risk.

More people use the trampoline Park, and Covid can be passed on hard surfaces. I struggle to imagine every inch is adequately disinfected between uses.

Exercising releases more particles of fluid into the air so the risk of transmitting infection is higher.

It didn't sound like the op is hiring the whole site, so there will be other dc present from outside the bubble.

There will be staff present who aren't in the school bubble.

Families gathering to either drop off/pick up, or to watch while the dc bounce create more risk.

There are good reasons why the Covid guidance specifically mentions not organising parties where social distancing is difficult. While none of the dc may be at particular risk if they catch Covid, choosing to break the rules puts more vulnerable relatives and neighbours at risk.

I'm honestly surprised that the trampoline park is willing to host a party like this when it is clearly against guidance. It would make me wonder about what other safety guidance they are ignoring.

GameSetMatch · 08/09/2020 19:26

No, i would if the children were older but because parents have to stay I wouldn’t, two households still shouldn’t mix, Will the trampoline park allow it even? If the children were getting dropped off with no parents staying I wouldn’t mind because they are all together in school anyway. If we all just bend the rules even slightly this nightmare is never going to end.

BikeTyson · 08/09/2020 19:27

I'm honestly surprised that the trampoline park is willing to host a party like this when it is clearly against guidance. It would make me wonder about what other safety guidance they are ignoring.

Why is that more of a risk on the trampoline centre’s part than just having the same number of children and parents there independently? They are allowed to open, and offer their services. If you disagree with that entirely then fair enough, but this situation is no more risky because the children are there ‘together’ than it would be if they turned up separately.

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Teacher12345 · 08/09/2020 19:29

It's a good point people are making about parents actually and I am desperate for the schools not to close again so maybe I will just arrange for a couple of friends to come to a local park after school instead.

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Keepdistance · 08/09/2020 19:37

Agree. It's the parents grouping closely inside. (Although i guess they might be wearing masks?

SendHelp30 · 08/09/2020 19:38

I absolutely would and ime children love these kinds of parties. Hope your DD has fun!

MJMG2015 · 08/09/2020 19:49

I think you'd be FAR better doing as you've said and having a 'party in the park' even if the weather is pants & you end up doing it at home. As long as you have a couple of friends, balloons & cake you'll have met the brief! Far less 'risk' than the trampoline park.

I really would just invite a couple of friends from her class though - maybe 3. Then the 4 of them will have fun & it'll be enough to feel like a party.

Hope she has a great birthday!

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Teacher12345 · 08/09/2020 20:05

@MJMG2015 she only started last week and only knows 2 other kids so might just invite them. There is a park behind the school so could even just ask them if they will join us for an hour and then take her for tea somewhere.

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GigantosaurusRex · 08/09/2020 20:08

DS went to a 6 year olds birthday party on Saturday in a community hall setting. Parents weren't allowed to stay due to social distancing but DS is a bit older and was happy with that. I loitered in the car park with a flask and a book! So yes, I would allow my child to go to a party.

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Teacher12345 · 08/09/2020 20:10

@GigantosaurusRex the kids have just started school and some were 3 just a few months ago so I think parents would have to stay. The trampoline park are doing them in class bubbles but don't know if they have considered parents.

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MrsSchadenfreude · 08/09/2020 20:11

Give them a book from the Book People.

Lollyneenah · 08/09/2020 20:13

If they were from the same class then yes Smile

Beautiful3 · 08/09/2020 20:13

Yes. Sounds good.

Lollyneenah · 08/09/2020 20:14

And we love party bags, sweeties and plastic tat most welcome in our house

emmyhelly · 08/09/2020 20:15

I would allow DC to go IF they’re all from the same school bubble (so no slipping in an extra sibling etc) but I would also expect a lot of parents to not allow it due to parents mixing etc

GigantosaurusRex · 08/09/2020 20:15

@Teacher12345 absolutely, DS is nearly 6 so he's been with his peer group since nursery and has established friends. I also don't think I'd have been comfortable leaving him at age 5 (I wobbled slightly a year on.....).