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Righting a wrong

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AutumnAlready · 08/09/2020 16:01

Hi there

Just looking to see what others think or what they might do.

I had an involvement with someone for about six months last year when I was in a really bad place hence I think my judgement wasn't great. At the start of this year, I got out of it, cut ties completely as I knew the person was quite obsessive and unstable.

Fast forward to about a month ago, I have discovered that that person and two of his friends are trying to destroy my character, deliberately spreading lies about me, a very set up effort to do this. We share a hobby and within this hobby they are doing this, they've all been told now they are no longer welcome to that hobby, such was the concentrated effort to get me. I think the guy I was involved with is extremely hurt and his friends are out to get me for that. I believe it's not hurt but his unstable personality, ego being bruised etc.

The thing is I've not struck back at all, I know what that guy is and he is dangerous. I am very annoyed with the two of his friends though, one of whom went to one of my best friends to run me down. I actually have evidence of how unstable he is in the form of a letter that I received to my house, written to me as if from a stranger full of abuse, horrendous things said. I knew full well it was him when I got it, thing is his email address is imprinted on the back of it, he must have leaned on the document onto another document with his name on and he doesn't know this.

Up to now I've left it be as I have a family illness to deal with.

So I guess I can strike back on this and clear my name, right a wrong, let his two friends see how crazy he is. I have no interest in engaging with him whatsoever or anyone else but should I tell them what actually happened? Maybe I should continue to ignore it? People who know me know my character and I think those people are showing themselves up but I am tempted to strike back in some way. How though? I don't want to engage at all with any of them.

Thank you for reading.

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user12642379742146 · 08/09/2020 16:07

His friends still won't believe you or they're the same as him and won't care. Both probably.

Either way it won't be worth it.

The universe gives zero fucks about justice and fairness.

These aren't the actions of a hurt person, they're the actions of a controlling person.

Don't engage. You know the truth and so do the people who matter in your life. That's enough.

If the harassment escalates you may need to consider involving the police or at least speaking to the National Stalking Helpline.

user12642379742146 · 08/09/2020 16:08

Nothing you do or don't do will "clear your name". People believe what they want to believe.

AutumnAlready · 08/09/2020 19:19

I agree, there's no fairness or justice.

I don't think I'd ever clear my name as such, just get the truth out in some way and leave it at that.

I guess his friends will never see his controlling ways, I think he reserves those for women.

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