To those MNetters with MH issues

[PonfusedCarent]

My friend has disclosed they are struggling with their MH and as I can't see them at the moment owing to work commitments, distance and mostly them brushing it off. They have never seen a GP about it but have a family that's around if needed.

Anyway, to my point, I'd like to buy them a gift, something that'll remind them I'm thinking of them but a small pick me up too. Can you suggest anything that you'd appreciate during hard times?

Anything!! Honestly. It's such a lovely thought and that is what counts. I had a friend send me a beautiful card the other day and just having her write down something about how she knows things are tough but she is thinking of me made such a huge difference. I think there are some lovely homemade gifts on Etsy (like Amuru Toys) but It depends on what your friends tastes are.

Anything is a lovely gesture. I find distraction helps me more than anything else, so maybe a DVD they'll enjoy (or is that dated ??!) or a good book/ magazine.

I don't think it will matter what you send, the thought here is what matters. Put your feelings into your card, and let them know they have your support even though distance separates you.

I would always appreciate a book, or flowers/a plant. I also have a craft hobby that's kept me sane through lockdown, so something related to that would be great too.

Food is a bit tricky, depending on the MH condition. I'm a comfort eater and if I was given chocolate or cake, I would probably binge it all in one go and then feel crap about my lack of self-control.

Just bought a lovely shower gel and shampoo for a friend (something I love to sniff in a posh shop but would put back and not splurge on for myself). Not very original but I think it will be used. Definitely with a genuine and heartfelt card though.

A delicious smelling candle would be very well received here. I find candle light and soft floral fragrance very soothing.

A nice plant which will last a long time?

Lovely soft blanket, maybe cashmere if you can stretch to it

When I was feeling very low a few years ago, my friend sent me a large bar of Galaxy chocolate in the post and taped to it was a small drawing she’d done of us having a coffee and laughing together. She’s an illustrator and it was a much needed gesture of friendship and reminded me that I had value as a person. It doesn’t have to be an expensive gift, OP, just a clear signal that you are there when your friend is ready.

I just wanted to thank everyone on this thread for your lovely suggestions, I got some flowers and some nice body products as a reminder to be kind to herself. She seemed happy with the gifts and reading the card and has since had a chat with me.

Wishing all of you well