Alcohol related, what would you think of this?

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What would you think if someone told you that they have just arranged the most fabulous deal and had managed to get wine cheap, but had to buy in bulk.

This is not for resale but for personal use, person is single so its not like it was bought with the intent on being shared. 13 cases of the same wine, which is 78 bottles and the deal was that a bottle of whiskey was thrown into the deal for free.

So I don't drip feed this is a friend who I think has an alcohol problem, but they got very upset with me when I brought it up as their reasoning is that for work they get tested so they don't drink whilst working away, which is 5 to 6 months of the year. The remaining time of the year when not working they can drink 2 bottle of wine a night easily. This is to make the most of the time when they can drink.

This person is being a bit shirty with me now as I didn't wow, congratulations haul out the bunting at his fantastic 'deal'.

It's a bit ott isn't it?

Does their drinking impact your quality of life?

Is that the real reason they're being shirty, or is it because you're judging them?

I’d be asking what the deal was

If they can drink two bottles of wine a night on a regular basis then I’d consider that a lot. Perhaps they do have a ‘problem‘. You’d have to ask them.

I would buy 78 bottles of my favourite wine. I’ve drank it for years, usually one per week.

@Aquamarine1029

Does their drinking impact your quality of life?

Not now no as I no longer live in the same area, but it caused a lot of issues in the past.

I've reread my post back now and perhaps I'm overthinking this. They are adults and make the choices and ultimately it doesn't affect me anymore. But I received a message like they were bragging about it, and then took offence as I didn't share in the excitement of it. It all just seems rather odd.

@WorraLiberty

Is that the real reason they're being shirty, or is it because you're judging them?

This,,,

It all just seems rather odd

What we were all thinking,,,

@Suzi888

I’d be asking what the deal was

If they can drink two bottles of wine a night on a regular basis then I’d consider that a lot. Perhaps they do have a ‘problem‘. You’d have to ask them.

I am all for a bargain but it wasn't even that cheap... The deal was the 1 x whiskey being thrown in for free.

I have a friend who is an alcoholic (by his own admission) he does this to stop him being in and out of the shop for alcohol and spending more than intended

That’s his thinking

In reality he drinks more because it is there waiting

It's a very common "share" in AA meetings that active alcoholics vary the shops they buy from, to attempt to avoid embarrassment at repeat purchases. So this would be a good way round that. Unlikely to be boasted about though .... more likely to be hidden around the house in various places.

If it has impacted you I can see why you may be worried, or if you care for your friend. But other than confronting them and being prepared to lose the friendship, there’s not an awful lot you can do.

Two bottles every night, for a prolonged period is too much in my opinion. Are they male or female?

He is male Suzi. Yes it is concerning as I know the history but I see now that I really just need to let it be.

It's a pretty crappy deal 2bh, unless the whiskey is worth a lot, in which case she could sell it on.

It sounds like a poor excuse to buy so much. Does she need an excuse? Not necessarily. But the fact she has told you about the deal suggests to me a bit of protesting too much.

Difficult situation, alcoholics won’t seek help unless they want to. He probably thinks that as he has breaks and can stop when he’s working that he doesn’t have a problem.
If he’s a good friend (I assume no partner or other that could intervene) you could say something to him, that you are concerned etc
I find it strange he’s telling you about it, normally alcoholics hide it, or at least not mention it. He doesn’t see it as a problem and in all likelihood probably doesn’t feel ‘drunk’.