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To be worried sick that I’ve made wrong choice of school and DD will be broken.

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Moominmummy12 · 05/09/2020 09:03

Sorry just needed some perspective.
DD grew up in small town, went to primary had lots of friends, very happy. I then thought it would be better for her to go to small independent school for secondary as she’s got ADHD tendencies. She started at Indy at beginning of year but due to Covid hasn’t had many weeks at school. This week she’s been saying all the other girls in class seem to have long established friendships and she feels left out of things. They phone each other in evening etc. Understandably Now her old school friends are making new friends at high school and so she has no one. I feel so sad and stupid for choosing this school over local one. Local school is way oversubscribed. What can I do? I hate to see her miserable and it’s all my fault.

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MrsDanielCleaver · 05/09/2020 09:37

Similar position here,although my DD is NT. She started last September, took a while to settle, then covid. Hasn't really heard from any friends. I've talked it through a few times, encouraged her to stay in touch with people (sadly not many have replied) and also contacted her primary friends too.
At the end of the day, I know I just cannot do it for her. Making friends is her own responsibility, I can and have facilitated it as much as possible (she had a party late last year, I encouraged her to walk to school with a couple of local children attending the same school).
I've encouraged her to join clubs, in school and after school ones and outside school.

Moominmummy12 · 05/09/2020 09:42

It’s so hard being helpless and feeling so responsible. It’s eating me up, can’t sleep at night properly etc.

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Moominmummy12 · 05/09/2020 09:46

Sorry what’s NT?

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ItsTimeToPlayTheMusic · 05/09/2020 09:58

Neurotypical (you referenced ADHD, so that is sometimes referred to as neurodiverse (ND)).

Moominmummy12 · 05/09/2020 21:32

Ahh I see.

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Pombearbuffet · 05/09/2020 22:14

Email/ring the school so they know.
Don’t feel bad, she’ll get there. It takes a while to settle into a new school

BlowingmyJets · 05/09/2020 22:28

Op I would bounce this to school. Hopefully, they will do some bonding stuff to help them.

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