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3 Years Ago

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RosesForeverRed · 04/09/2020 23:22

3 years ago in the early hours of tomorrow morning I lost my lovely, wonderful amazingly brave dadSad
I still think about him most days and miss him so much.
We were so alike and I could tell what he was thinking.
He was a very young 73 and was taken by the evil cancer. It was quite sudden and we didn't expect him to go so soon.
I had an amazing childhood because of him, he was so much fun and was the life and soul of the party. He was so in love with my mum and didn't want to leave her, they were married for over 50 years.
He kept asking me on his death bed to look after her.
He had 6 grandchildren, all grown up but devoted to him and devastated to lose him.Theyve all gone on to do amazing things that he would be so proud of.
I think of all the things he missed and wonder what he would think of our new front door, or the new wallpaper, or our new puppy!
I can still remember the night he died as clear as anything, he was peaceful but clung on to life for hours, not wanting to go.
I dont know why I'm posting, just feeling sad tonight,
Night dad, love you xx

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Shouldbedoing · 04/09/2020 23:25

He sounds like a lovely guy. I'm sorry for your loss

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RosesForeverRed · 04/09/2020 23:33

Thankyou. I didn't really expect any replies, I just wanted to put my feelings in writing I guess

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MrsIronfoundersson · 04/09/2020 23:49

So sorry for your loss OP, he sounds like a lovely dad. It gets easier, you will remember the good times without forgetting him as a person. Best wishes xx

jellytot24 · 05/09/2020 00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss OP, he sounds like such a lovely man. Keep talking and writings him, I find it helps keep the memories fresh. Sending hugs xx

BlackeyedSusan · 05/09/2020 00:05

so sorry. Flowers

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RosesForeverRed · 05/09/2020 07:42

Thanks everyone, I'm going to try and focus on all the good times today. Thinking I might find a different photo of him and put in a nice frame. Will buy mum some flowers

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greybuttons11 · 05/09/2020 09:58

Awww he sounds like an amazing person so sorry for your loss would you go see a psychic do you believe in stuff like tht? One time I went and my uncle came through it was lovely xxx

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RosesForeverRed · 05/09/2020 10:37

@greybuttons11 I have often thought about it, not sure if I believe in it but would be so lovely and comforting

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nosswith · 05/09/2020 11:07

My dad died of cancer though was 82. Try to remember the many good times you had.

greybuttons11 · 05/09/2020 11:35

If you decide to go do research and go to a decent one ❤️❤️ much love xx

golddustwomen · 05/09/2020 11:37

He sounds like amazing dad and man. So sorry for your loss but made me smile this morning reading about your lovely dad and childhood. Keep writing and remembering the good times, keep smiling. Sending love op Thanks

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RosesForeverRed · 05/09/2020 11:41

He was just so full of life, he had already had the all clear from a different cancer and had open heart surgery but wouldn't let that stop him. He loved cruises and sitting in the sun. He loved his garden it was his pride and joy.
I feel privileged that I was able to be with him as he slipped away and hold his hand and tell him I loved him. Alot of people dont get that chance.

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