I was developing a social life,,,,then it stopped

[chomalungma]

Going out. Using social groups to go to pubs, gigs, eat out with strangers, do walking with people, just having fun.

I was doing so well and getting out of my shell.

Then this all hit.

Live music stopped, Going out with lots of people, with strangers in groups has stopped.

I am so fucking bored. I am lucky to have DS but I want to meet new people and to socialise. And it's all stopped.

I know there is nothing that can be done. But it's so hard. I was lonely and I was just developing at least some people to chat to - who aren't work colleagues.

Anyone else feel the same?

Yes definitely. I was getting back on my feet after some very hard years where I'd been very solitary. I was making such good progress and then everything shut down. I've managed to get out that bit more in the last few weeks but it's not the same as having an established friendship group and everything good like choirs, dance classes, knitting groups, dating evenings all shut down completely or went online.

I am taking the view that we potentially have some difficult months ahead of us but it will be ok after that. Life will open up again and if you were managing to get out of your shell before, hopefully you can again. It's just about ticking off the days for now and making the best of them. I'm not sure how old you are but hopefully you have many happy, fulfilling years ahead after this. It is very difficult though and it's ok to struggle. Humans aren't meant to be isolated.

I think that having 'been there', it's easier than for people who aren't used to it.

I know things will get back to normal sometime, but I know how low I got and the effort it took to get out of my shell.

Yes. I'm single and 30 and so aware of my time running out, but I don't want to socialise with strangers in the circumstances.