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In confidence, who has / is going on travel considered "non-essential"?

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TodayIsMagic · 04/09/2020 18:38

Zero judgement on this thread, just keen to hear others' stories. I travelled to Ireland to go to a family funeral on 20th August, i'm still here.

Got off plane, rented a car, drove straight to aunt and uncle's place and funeral was next day. Is going to a funeral "essential" ? No, but this relative was very special to me and I was also wondering if / when i'd see other relations over here again as surely this is going to go on (countries being added / taken off the "green list", air bridges, local lockdowns, etc etc) until a vaccine is developed and ready? I've gone against guidance, I know. I've put my emotional needs ahead of the global advice. I don't wish to be a potential burden on another country's health system shouldtheworsthappen, but here I am. I went to that funeral and to a house afterwards for tea. Apart from that, i've restricted movements since 21st August - been to the local chemist once, for tampons - I'm now able to move around more freely. I'm self-employed (but work has dried up lately) as a result can work from anywhere with wifi. I dIdn't book a return flightand aunt and uncle are happy to have the company - they're in mid and late 50s and not medically vulnerablebut both retired. Returning the hire car tomorrow but going to stay until next Friday.

To be upfront - I feel like I can breathe for the first time since March. Live in a fairly built up area in England but not a Covid "hot spot", struggled a lot during lockdown and even beyond. I ammarried but no DC. DH's work has carried on as normal the whole time. Thiswill be the longest we've been apart since we met but we're quite independent people at home anyways. He's supportive of this break for me. My head feels clearer, it's lovely to be with aunt and uncle (no kids of their own and a bit like a second mam and dad to me).

And that's my story of non-essential travel.

OP posts:
Marriageoftrueminds · 04/09/2020 18:46

I thought the rules were now that you can travel for anything (even holidays) unless you are self-isolating for covid/been told to by track and trace?

Faraway20 · 04/09/2020 18:48

You are allowed to travel wherever you like Confused

Ted27 · 04/09/2020 19:01

non essential travel is allowed now and has been for some time.

quite happy to 'admit' as a non driver, I have taken my son to vist grandparents in the north west, to see friends in Cornwall, a pre arranged birthday trip to North Wales, and a last minute caravan holiday in North Wales, plus some day trips on the bus closer to home.
Just looking at Edinburgh for half term at Premier Inn have rooms at £35 a night
Whilst I don't see the need to talk in confidence about it, I do completely understand that feeling of being able to breathe after being confined for so long. A drizzley beach in Wales never felt so good.
The funeral was important to you, I hope you can enjoy your trip and seeing your family without feeling guilty about it.

TodayIsMagic · 05/09/2020 11:19

Ok, in my specific case I went against guidance by not totally restricting my movements for 14 days - anyone travelling into Ireland from any country not on the green list is meant to do this. There’s been lots of pressure for this list to be urgently reviewed however, but that’s currently how it still stands!

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minnieok · 05/09/2020 11:28

I've travelled throughout lockdown. I had good reason and if challenged I don't think they would have fined me but strictly speaking it wasn't 100% essential. My adult DD's don't live with me but one has moderate to sometimes fairly bad mental health issues and it wasn't fair on her sister to care for her all the time, their dad also broke the rules by going around before the bubble thing came in.

He had a critical worker letter from central government and I carried it with me in case I was stopped on the motorway etc.

Not everyone's lives are simple, those of us with complex set ups relying on free movement were affected by lockdown far more, I do think young adults (say under 25) should have been automatically given the right to see both their parents all along not just under 18's, you don't magically not need your dad on your 18th birthday. We used the right to care for a disabled person loophole but I feel fit my kids friends who stuck to the rules and didn't see parents for months.

My mp was really sympathetic about our situation and told me to ignore the rules, care comes first!

Dowser · 05/09/2020 11:32

I pm still crossing everything for our Tenerife holiday in October
It’s essential I have some sun
It’s essential I see my friends
It’s essential I support our fave local restaurants
It’s essential I have some fun

Judge away 😂

Dowser · 05/09/2020 11:33

@minnieok
Your mp sounds like a rare breed
People in authority with common sense 😁

Marriageoftrueminds · 05/09/2020 11:34

@TodayIsMagic now your post makes sense! I didn't realise England wasn't on the Ireland green list.

BogRollBOGOF · 05/09/2020 11:43

From the UK perspective, there is no issue with travel to Ireland. Ireland is of similar levels of community transmission and broadly similar policies to the UK.

You haven't done anything wrong. Drop the guilt and enjoy the time away.

Aragog · 05/09/2020 11:48

I'm in England so the restriction of essential travel only was lifted ages ago.

I've been on holiday to France for a fortnight - no quarantine required at that point.

I've used the trains to travel for leisure purposes - visiting family.

I've driven or used taxis for leisure purposes - days out, meals out with friends, visiting friends and family, visiting university town, etc.

In lockdown we went on many a local walk for non essential purposes.

MakeTeaNotWar · 05/09/2020 12:45

OP my mother's brother, my godfather, my darling uncle passed away on Monday. I couldn't travel to the funeral which was on Monday as I respected the quarantine rules that have been put in place by the Irish gov and I am heartbroken not to have been able to be with my family at such a sad time. So no, I haven't done any "non-essential" travel.

MakeTeaNotWar · 05/09/2020 12:45

The funeral was on Wednesday that should have said

PleasantVille · 05/09/2020 12:52

I think I'm about the only person I know who hasn't been on holiday this summer, does anyone in England observe any kind of non essential rule? I thought we can go wherever we want as long as we quarantine if necessary when we get back.

michelle1504 · 05/09/2020 13:16

As long as you respected your host countries rules then there isn't really an issue. You did quarantine, as per their rules, apart from to get sanitary products.

MakeTeaNotWar · 05/09/2020 13:21

@michelle1504 no she attended a funeral and went for tea.

ScrapThatThen · 05/09/2020 13:27

If there is a travel quarantine (I don't quite understand your post) then yabu to not respect that.

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