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Needy, insecure toddler

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HarryHarry1 · 03/09/2020 19:53

My toddler is nearly 2.5. He was a bit delayed physically due to a long spell in hospital as a baby and consequently he can’t yet do a lot of things other kids his age can do - running, jumping, climbing - and he lacks co-ordination and confidence on playground equipment.

After a bad experience at nursery, he is also afraid of people and cries hysterically if I walk away even for a few moments to get something from the pushchair or put something in the bin.

His little sister is nearly a year old and also going through a big separation anxiety phase so I’m finding it utterly exhausting and draining. Whenever I take them for a playdate with other kids, they will not stray from my side. They are constantly underfoot. It’s getting to the point where it’s a bit embarrassing. Nobody else I know has children who do this. I can see that other parents think there’s something about me and my parenting that has made them this way. But what? I don’t think I do anything differently to anybody else.

I should add that when I’m close by, the toddler is very happy and confident and chatty with everyone. But I have to be VERY close by.

I don’t really know what the point of this post is. I just feel so drained from little people tugging at me or climbing on me or clinging to me all the time. I guess it’s normal for babies of a certain age but like I said none of my friends’ children do this, certainly not at 2.5.

Can anybody reassure me that it will be OK?

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HarryHarry1 · 04/09/2020 02:30

Hopeful bump?

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Anordinarymum · 04/09/2020 02:37

My advice to you would be to relax. If your toddler is clingy then let him cling. He may sense that you want to leave him and this will make him anxious.

My youngest was like this and for no good reason but he grew out of it eventually. He was always more loving than my older children though.

Some children are naturally independent and some need reassurance. That's what mums are for. It's only a stage of development. I realise it is wearing but if you relax into it you will find it easier to cope with.

Hailtomyteeth · 04/09/2020 07:19

Babies, toddlers and small children are supposed to cling, that's how they survive. Trust them and give them the reassurance they need.

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