Name calling of my child from her friend

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Hi
First day back at school and my 6 year old girl has come back upset already from her so called friend who calls her names.

I would like advice as i am friends with the mum of this girl, however she really is not a nice little girl and we have had problems in the past with her name calling, being mean, leaving my little girl out of their group of friends etc.

I have spoken to her mum about these issues before but nothing ever changes and she has even admitted she doesn't know what to do with the child as she is taking no notice of her.

I have tried telling my little girl to ignore her and play with others but now they are sitting with each other at school-and also there is the classic case of my girl wanting to be friends with her even though she is not a nice child.

What would other people do? Approach the mum yet again or leave it be for a week or so and see if it improves or gets worse etc? Or any suggestions what i can say to my girl to help her when the child is being mean?

Many thanks

Name calling is a form of bullying. If this is happening during school, I would discuss the matter with your DD’s form teacher. Maybe she can move desks or the teacher canstart a class talk about acceptable behaviour. Encourage new friendships. Build up your daughter’s self esteem and try to get her to understand that real friends don’t call you names.
I wouldn’t bother talking to the mother again as this is getting you anywhere.

Let school know. I'd do this straight away because I would want them moving the seating and it would be better before they've established the seating plan - especially in current circumstances. Your dd shouldn't have to sit next to a bully all day.

Other than that you are right to encourage playing with others. Just keep talking to her and giving her ideas how to join in with others.

Let her teacher know, request she has a new seating partner. Normally I'd say to ask other girls round for tea, to build new friendships. But tricky at the moment though.

I agree let school know and ask for your daughter to be swapped to a new seat. It's good she feels comfortable opening up to you and telling you when she doesn't like something.