Did anyone else feel like this about having a 3rd baby and did you end up having one?

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We have two children which is what me and DH wanted. At the moment I feel that is right and if anyone asked I say we are done and happy with two.
However for some reason I have had this feeling we will have another. I don't know why though. I am very sick during pregnancy, would be scared to go through labour again and find the newborn stage hard. DH today admitted he actually felt the same way and thinks like me we will probably have another. I am really surprised he feels the same.
I don't think I'm articulating myself very well. But just wondered if others had similar feelings and did you go on to have another?

I sort of understand what you mean. For me it's kind of like my heart is telling me we will have another but my head is screaming noooo. I don't like pregnancy and find the newborn stage hard but if I'm honest with myself I would like another. I just feel guilty because it would be a strain financially and I worry about offering all the children enough of my time etc..

Strangely having been totally incapacitated with sickness with my first two, I was fine with the third. If you feel that you want one more, go for it!

@Notsurewhatsgoingon that is exactly how I feel you have explained it so much better than me. Financially it would be hard on us aswell. I have put my career on hold as I'm just working part time. But my plan was to do some further training and go back full time in the next couple of years.

We felt much the same, I too was surprised when DH said he thought we'd probably have another. We did decide to have a third, took way longer to conceive than before (and had two miscarriages), but dc3 is now 18 months old and our family wouldn't be the same without her, everyone loves her to bits.

I did very much want a third so didn’t feel like you, but I have to say despite loving them all dearly I wouldn’t do it again. I think financially it is a huge thing and with life as it is now (my children are now adult) if I was in the same position again I would stop at 2. Also I would have gone back to work sooner and prioritised a career and given the two I had already more time.

This is exactly how I feel. We have started actively considering it as it just feels so inevitable if that makes sense (I get it probably doesn't).

I did want 3 before I had my second who was a very high needs baby and I had PND and post natal anxiety and OCD so was a fun first year.

Since then I was firmly set on just the 2 but recently, well its just a feeling isnt it. I'm currently buying a new car and looking for one that can fit 3 kids 'just in case'....

I think this is quite common. DH actually had a vasectomy after our second but he had it reversed as we just knew we would regret it if we didn't have a third, we had talked about it for 3 years! We are currently trying for our third (and final) baby, although there will be a cut off point. You are allowed to change your mind, either way. it's nobody else's business but yours at the end of the day.