No judgement please, advice on CC

[Fortheloveofbob]

Reposting in the hopes of a response...

Not looking for judgement here AT ALL, but i need a few tips - about to start CC with almost 10m DD who is still waking 2-3 hourly to breastfeed overnight. She self-settles for naps and at bedtime, i was happy to keep feeding her in the night, thought she'd grow out of it when she was ready... but she's now eating 3 meals a day plus a snack, and she's walking and climbing everything, both of which i heard were magic bullets for sleeping through. I'm ready ish to start TTC number 2 and i really need more sleep.

Currently, i try to leave her to sort herself out for a bit, but it doesn't work. She'll grumble, sometimes for up to half an hour, and then get upset. So, i have two questions for you experts...

1. How long do i leave her grumbling before i go in?
2. Do i pat her to calm, or just give her a little love and bob out again til the next interval?

Well I did extreme measures and I’m sure everyone will tell me I’m cruel. At age 9 months end of my tether with a baby who just wouldnt sleep I put him in his cot and let him cry. And cry. And cry. 2 and half hours. Next night was about 1 and half then next night about 30 mins then that was it. Slept on own and self settled.
Cracked it in 3 nights
Now I’m not suggesting that’s right or to be advocated but I’m so glad i bit the bullet and did it even though it was brutal at the time
He’s now a strapping teenager and I really do t think those 3 nights has impacted our relationship or bonding ( Improved as we both slept !) and are as close as ever

Try posting in the Sleep topic. Or even better, searching it. This is asked at least 5 times a day in there and means the rest of us don’t have to read it.

If she’s grumbling and you know she can self settle then I would just leave her. She’s probably habit waking - she’ll quickly learn she doesn’t get food or cuddles and learn to just go back to sleep. This was the situation we were in when mine was five months old - he was waking twice a night and grumbling. one night I decided I couldn’t face getting out of bed and he just went back to sleep. After a couple of nights, he stopped waking

Good luck OP

The Ferber book is amazing, cracked it for us

@Feminist10101 do you have to be so bloody rude? You could have just not opened the topic!

Here's an article I found helpful OP: www.madeformums.com/baby/what-is-controlled-crying/

If you google Ferber sleep chart it will give you the minute wait guide. Worked for Dd at 14 months. Horrendous sleeper to 12 hour a night sleeper within a couple of weeks.

We used to leave dc for a few minutes, And then gradually increase the gaps.

Good luck, it’s well worth it.

@Feminist10101 the subject matter was clearly in the title therefore you didn't 'have' to read it.

I did CC but only to get to sleep at the start of the night (my ds never woke up during the night once asleep) as pp said first night was 1hr 40 mins solid, next night just over an hour, then 10 mins, then fixed for good never to cry at bedtime again.
The only advice I have is to stick with it even when it seems every bone in your body is telling you to give up. It gets better

Oh I went in every 4 minutes, lay ds back down said 'sleep time now' and gave him a bit of a back pat.

[quote PopcornAndWine]@Feminist10101 do you have to be so bloody rude? You could have just not opened the topic!

Here's an article I found helpful OP: www.madeformums.com/baby/what-is-controlled-crying/[/quote]
Erm, in the Chat forum “CC” could be about anything. Credit cards, engine size, carbon copy on emails, congestion charge, CC cream.......

There’s a well established sleep forum which, given the OP’s title anticipates judgement for asking, would have been a better starting point. Surely.

@Feminist10101 the subject matter was clearly in the title therefore you didn't 'have' to read it.

I’ve listed above 5 meanings of CC that occurred to me before reading the thread. So no, not clear in the slightest.

@Feminist10101 do you post snotty comments on all the threads you don’t want to read or did you just fancy picking on this on. Scroll on by if it’s not your cup of tea.

@Fortheloveofbob I WISH I’d done cc - I really think it would have saved me from pnd or at least lessened it. Good luck.

Some babies get into a habit of the feeding being a comfort.

lots of mums I know use to leave a bottle of plain water and said it worked for them.

I wouldn't go in for grumbling. Does she have a dummy?

[quote Orchidflower1]@Feminist10101 do you post snotty comments on all the threads you don’t want to read or did you just fancy picking on this on. Scroll on by if it’s not your cup of tea.

@Fortheloveofbob I WISH I’d done cc - I really think it would have saved me from pnd or at least lessened it. Good luck.[/quote]
So sorry. Too busy to reply properly. I’m busy writing a post about car maintenance for the style and beauty board. And then a nice recipe for AIBU and possibly a knitting pattern for the back to work board.

@Feminist10101

Try posting in the Sleep topic. Or even better, searching it. This is asked at least 5 times a day in there and means the rest of us don’t have to read it.

Funnily enough, my first port of call was google, but i couldn't find the answers to my specific questions. I then posted in Sleep, and didn't get any responses.

I'm very sorry that my post unbalanced you, i hope your day gets better soon. Thank you for your input.

@Purplequalitystreet

I wouldn't go in for grumbling. Does she have a dummy?

No dummy, and i rather think we've missed the boat. She gets herself to sleep fine in the evening, just wants to feed all night!

Food is a lot less calorific than milk. This is very common during weaning. Your baby needs the calories you aren’t giving during the day.

@Feminist10101

Food is a lot less calorific than milk. This is very common during weaning. Your baby needs the calories you aren’t giving during the day.

She hasn't dropped any feeds though - she lost a lot of weight as a newborn though she caught up quickly, so I've always been very cautious about breastfeeding and weaning, i always feed her 30-60 minutes before a meal, and she gets a top up in the afternoon to tide her over til bed, she's getting just as much milk as she did pre-solids. Tiny boob fiend. Her sleep hasn't changed either, she's woken every 3 hours maximum since she was born. Hence the sleep training.