Tired of the single comments?

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I became friends with someone when we were both single, she’s now with someone she seems very smug (sometimes) and constantly makes little comments

Some examples ...

Called me a “single Pringle”

I made a comment that I was moody last Christmas and didn’t put decorations up. Her response - yes I never put decorations up when I was single either (I never said I was moody because I was single)

Her - I’m getting a dog, me - I’d love one but I know I couldn’t handle the responsibility. Her - yes I wouldn’t get one if I were single either.

I just want to scream - yes I’m single, but that doesn’t define my life or my choices.

If you’re so happy in your relationship do you need to put me down for something I can’t control?

Just makes me sad as she was genuinely such a good friend when single and never put me down.

These were the most recent comments I should add,

They’ve also been a couple for 18 months so it’s not really a new relationship anymore.

I don't blame you.

Start calling her a “partnered prick” or a “cohabiting cunt” depending on what mood you’re in

This would drive me bats! I just had someone tell me if I did something with my hair and used makeup I could get a man - days after I told her I had no interest whatsoever in having a partner! Your relationship status has nothing to do with other people unless you raise the topic.

You said she's a good friend - can you just say to her 'It's not because I'm single, it's because...' every time she does it?

I’ve only ever called him a bad word once and that was very recently - never have done before in their entire relationship.

He upset her with a comment then cried for 3 days over it. maybe I’m cold hearted but regardless she got quite offended.

Yes that sounds irritating...

makeup I could get a man - days after I told her I had no interest whatsoever in having a partner! Your relationship status has nothing to do with other people unless you raise the topic.

I’ve actually said very similar to her. More to stop the constantly being asked if I was back on tinder and had met someone yet (during lockdown?) by her.

Her reaction was one of pity.

I mean I’d like to be with someone but I want a partner not just be with someone for the sake of having a boyfriend, if that makes sense.

You said she's a good friend - can you just say to her 'It's not because I'm single, it's because...' every time she does it?

This is a good idea and I’ll try it. I’m just sadly one of those people that gets taken aback in the moment and then the moment passes and it’s too late to say something. But I will try.

I’m moving soon and a single friend of mine who is desperate for a man told me that I need to find myself a man and have a family to fill my house with. Then proceeded to make a load of additional comments about how I need to find a man and making judgmental remarks because I’m not online dating (tried it for ages, got nowhere, not interested in pursuing it anymore). Telling her I’m perfectly happy by myself has no impact. It’s a 3-bed, not a stately home.

When I moved into my current home she told me she wouldn’t want a house like mine because she wouldn’t want to be rattling around. It’s a mid-terrace FFS.

People like this are so irritating.

I just don’t get it ...

I see it like if me and a friend had the same job then I got a promotion and was paid more then I wouldn’t start making comments like -

If they said oh I’m sad I didn’t go away this year ... so I comment yes I couldn’t afford to go away on your salary either.

Just because I earn more it doesn’t mean I’m a better person. Just like having a partner doesn’t mean you’re above a person who doesn’t.

I think it baffles me more because why put someone down if you should be satisfied with your life?

She sounds pathetic.