Are there any books on parenting you particularly recommended?

[BessyBlue]

And why? What issues did it help with?
I’m looking for something to help me remain calm and not so stressed and snappy which doesn’t happen often but when I do snap I feel so guilty. Dd is becoming more challenging as I’m sure all kids do as they grow, she moans a lot that things are unfair and goes from 0 - 100 on minor things that don’t bother other kids, in other words she is a sensitive girl and very shy and I want to help her and not get snappy at her.

I got a lot out of Playful Parenting by Lawrence J Cohen.

I read it when I was pregnant so it wasn't to help with a specific issue, but it gave me a lot of ideas about how to structure what I know professionally about child development into actual parenting. It also gave me some reassurance when I didn't want to leave my baby to cry that this was a legit choice and not just pfb madness.

The how to talk so kids will listen books. Really great for small kids and siblings. Helpful summary at end of each chapter if you don't want to read it all. Loads of helpful phrases to use. Not based on some silly system/method to make your kid behave, just improving everyone's communication skills. Works on husbands too

www.amazon.co.uk/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/1848123094?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

www.amazon.co.uk/Talk-Little-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/184812614X/?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

www.amazon.co.uk/How-Talk-Siblings-Without-Rivalry-ebook/dp/B00EF1MJMM?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

I'm just reading How to talk so teens listen and how to listen so teens talk.

It's very good and I have been able to use strategies straight away. I've got 9 and 11 year old DDs. My 9 yo is particularly sensitive and anxious and it is helping me understand and deal with her behaviour. It gives scenarios that we all come across, and examples of ways to better handle it by acknowledging your child's feelings and de-escalation.

You don't say your daughter's age - there's a child version of the book too, and that works along similar lines.

Mine aren't teens yet, but I feel we are swiftly heading that way, with my eldest starting secondary next week!

I was also going to say How to Talk so Your Kids Will Listen

I’m not sure how old your DD is, but for anyone with teen DDs, I would wholeheartedly recommend’Untangled’ by Lisa D’amour; it is excellent and I have read it on a personal level as a mum as well as professionally ( I work with teens). A must read
www.waterstones.com/book/untangled/lisa-damour/9781782395560

Sorry she’s 7 years old, I will look at the how to talk to kids range that sounds good