DH is taking dc away for four nights...

[BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz]

And I CANT
FUCKING
WAIT.

I love my children with my whole heart. My husband is my soul mate (boak alert) but dear god the house to myself for 5 days/4 nights.

I'm a terrible mother and wife aren't I

Bloody fantastic op but how have you engineered this situation? Asking for a friend who hasn't had even ten minutes alone since March

It is such a great feeling. DH and DD went to see the grandparents one year but I had to work so I "only" had the evenings.

But since she is a Scout DH often volunteers to drive the van and has to stay overnight if it too far to return on the day or, in one case, actually participates in the event. Soooo nice having a weekend for myself.

Don't feel guilty at all, it is vital bonding time and enjoy every minute.

Mental levels of jealous

Op I can barely type I'm so bloody jealous. Enjoy!!

Oh wow, enjoy! I am so jealous. I had from 9 - 4 today without children, the first time since lockdown, and I LOVED it. Plus, we actually had stuff to talk about when they came home. Winning all round!

Haha I don't even know if I can claim any responsibility for it.

Dh is a teacher so has a ton of time off. His family are going away (only 1hr away but still!) So he has decided to book too, him and dc. He says he will only be doing the same at home as they will be doing other stuff together while I work so why not relocate to the coast.

I'm thinking of going and joining them the last night (and leaving early in the AM to come home for work) but we shall see....I may be "too busy"

It’s literally paradise. My ex-DH took my two (similar ages to yours) away for a week at the start of the summer hols. Even tho it coincided with the same week as a hugely taxing work/life change I still felt like I was at a spa resort in comparison to the previous 6 months lone-parenting/home-schooling/zoom meetings/homicidal rage.

Like you OP, I’m also fairly solitary so chose not to tell my mates. My DP knew this, so we took the opportunity to have lots of sleepovers (lovely and lots of shagging) but when I got fed up of having company I simply did an “I vont to be alone!” thing & he totally understood (parent too) then I luxuriated in only using one mug/plate for days & whole hours of silence. True, utter bliss!

Enjoy!!!

Reading threads like this reassures me that I'm not weird for wanting and needing time on my own without DH and DC. He usually take the kids away for a week to see his parents while I stay at home alone and so many people can't understand it. It really is absolute bliss for me.

You might be the most envied woman on Mumsnet right now!

Your time will be your own and that's possibly the thing I miss most. Even if you spend that time doing fuck all. In fact, especially if you spend that time doing fuck all because that's definitely what you can't do when children are around. I sometimes even wish I could stay at work a bit later to just finish something off, rather than having to leave to pick the DC up.

Although, with that said, when I had a similar length of time without my DC last year, I missed them by about day 3!

Sounds LUSH

you can stand at the fridge with the door open, fork in hand to delve in the beetroot jar and eat all the ham right from the packet while the kettle boils.

And you get to drink your drinks hot! :o

LaurieSchafferIsAllBitterNow

Goals. I'm all for this.

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz

Oh I'm sorry I didn't mean to envoke jealousy. My closest friend and my own mother would both hate and absoloutley question my enjoyment in this scenario and having you all validate it is good for me.

Oh lord! Please tell me they know nothing about it, otherwise they’ll plan things for you to do, “in case you get bored, we should.....”. “since you’re free, can you help me with....” “while you don’t have the kids, shouldn’t you be doing XYZ?”

Be very very careful OP. This needs to be a planned military exercise, including going into deep cover, if they turn up at your door! 😱

Oh you can hog the bed,tv remote and the takeaway menu.

You can have leftover pizza for breakfast.

Im not jealous at all.

Hahaha thankfully mum is away at the same time the stars aligned on that one.

I'll join you in the bad wife and mother club

Mine are all away this weekend with DH. They were meant to be going camping with BIL so I opted out. Because of the weather they're staying in a bunkhouse type place (they have it to themselves with).

My lovely MIL, who lives with us, said to me on Monday "Would you mind if I mostly ignore you this weekend and just read books and eat takeaways in my room pretending I'm completely alone? I love living here, but it's been a bit full-on since lockdown. I don't want to be rude..."

Absolutely I DO NOT mind!! I had at one point considered offering her a bribe to go away for the weekend so I was delighted.

Roll on 8am tomorrow morning.

Bloody hell, willie take my kids as well?🤣

Willie? Will he!

Ive just had 2 days by myself and i have loved every minute, it was so so nice

I totally understand you being excited OP. I have been desperate for the house to myself for weeks and managed to get 8 hours one day. Its been a LONG 6 months but my mental health really needs some time alone and I am struggling badly. So much so I am looking for a week away on my own abroad for mid september. All my kids are teens, their dad works locally and is here every night after work and they can all get themselves up for school/college and sort out the animals etc. So I am currently looking for a break with all inclusive drinks and a beach to snooze on between chapters of a new novel ( where nobody will talk to me hopefully). I havent had a solo holiday in 12 years. VERY excited.

This was a big factor in my divorce. The realisation that I'm happier on my own. The difference is that you only want a week, I realised it was every week.

I think we should all pile round to yours! Have an amazing, relaxing and peaceful time 💐

HotPatootie that sounds fabulous. Roll on teenager-dom.

Sounds lovely op, I’m also jealous!