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Baby name regret

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CMP20 · 26/08/2020 22:45

My baby girl was born in April. I really struggled to think of a girls name and the name we had settled on didn’t suit her so we went with another name on the list. I had two family members criticise the name choice and have since had another say she hoped we would call her something else. This has really upset me and put me off the name. Now I feel I have fallen out of love with it a bit and regret the choice. I have become a bit obsessional thinking about it and the fact the chance to name her has now passed. Any advise is very welcome. Thank you.

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ireallyamthewalrus · 26/08/2020 22:47

What’s her name?

RealityExistsInTheHumanMind · 26/08/2020 22:54

You can legally change her name until she is a year old.

My nephew's little boy was registered as William but they changed the registration at 11 months to Daniel

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CMP20 · 26/08/2020 22:58

I just can’t imagine telling people we would change it and my husband wouldn’t agree. I really loved the name but it’s been so hard with the criticism from family.

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NothingIsGoing2GetBetterItsNot · 26/08/2020 22:59

Ahh that's kind of sad! You must have loved it at first? Are you just super susceptible to criticism right now? So bloody rude of people too tell you they don't like your child's name, kind of renders their opinion null and void in my opinion!

As an aside you can change a child's name up to a year after you registered them (or after they were born, can't remember exactly which) - I did with both mine! 🤣 changed their middle names, maybe that's an idea for you then you/they can choose to use their middle name when older if preferred?

NothingIsGoing2GetBetterItsNot · 26/08/2020 23:02

Just seen your update. Knew it would be family! Tell them you're not keen on their names either but you've not been rude enough to mention it before. I really hate this kind of thing!

Bamboo15 · 26/08/2020 23:02

Could you change the name to include a middle name? It’s great to have a couple of middle names, and then you could call her that, or a nickname / shortened name and come back to the full name later with fresh eyes. Wider family might not even notice whether the middle name was there from the start.

Or fall back in love with the name? Remember why you liked it and forget what the family say. We called our second child a really long name that now I don’t really love, but honestly we call her by a shortened version all the time and I half forget what her full name is until we go to the doctors or something.

diavlo · 26/08/2020 23:27

Your family are horrid! It’s ok for them not to like the name you chose for your dad, but it’s not ok for them to voice that opinion.

LovingLola · 26/08/2020 23:30

Tell your family to fuck off

Mamabear425 · 26/08/2020 23:33

What is her name? I had a bit of regret with my daughters name in the first year but can't picture her being anything else now. Just use a nickname until you start liking it again x

welliwasntexpectingthat · 26/08/2020 23:41

I had this. It was such an overpowering period. It usually passes, well in most cases. I look back now and can see it was tied up with all sorts of emotions but i was so distressed at the time. Ignore your family.....do what you want to re her name but do it for you/her.....not them

DrEllie · 26/08/2020 23:41

You have to go with the name you want. It's OK to change your mind but it's not fair if that is due to outside pressure

Enko · 27/08/2020 00:13

When ds was born we announced his name as Conrad. My mother said "That's HORRIBLE" (this was within an hour of his birth)

FFW 11 years she came to visit us and during that visit, she said " I've always liked the name Conrad it's such a good solid and strong name"

She had got used to the name and now it represented her grandson whom she loved.

Your family members will come around too.

Lollypop4 · 27/08/2020 00:21

You're family need to be told to keep their opinions to themselves.

I've had a few comments about my DC names, they are "out there" but are a bit different.
My MIL actually said ,on hearing DS name, " Oh, That's a bit hard to say and remember, Im not keen "

My reply, Good job I don't value your opinion so much.

soon shut her up!

Lollypop4 · 27/08/2020 00:22

Not out there

raddledoldmisanthropist · 27/08/2020 00:27

I don't think your family were criticising you, I think it's very hard to explain the negative connotations of that name sensitively. I don't think they were unreasonable to flag up that naming her Chlamydia might cause some issues, no matter how pretty you think it is.

CaffeineInfusion · 27/08/2020 00:28

Sod the family. They're just rude.🤬

Congratulations to you and your dh on your baby girl💗

eaglejulesk · 27/08/2020 00:47

Ignore your family - your baby, your choice. If you love the name stick with it - and please try not to obsess over it, it really isn't worth it. Who actually cares what they think - I know you shouldn't.

Enough4me · 27/08/2020 00:54

If you change her name, what's to stop your family commenting on the new name.."yes we prefer Zelda more than Zoe, but it doesn't go with your surname, can you change to Zebedee?"

Then your DD grows up and reverts to Zoe and asks why you listened to others?

RainbowRaine · 27/08/2020 00:59

What are their reasons for not liking it?

haveyoutriedgoogle · 27/08/2020 03:30

@raddledoldmisanthropist

I don't think your family were criticising you, I think it's very hard to explain the negative connotations of that name sensitively. I don't think they were unreasonable to flag up that naming her Chlamydia might cause some issues, no matter how pretty you think it is.
Huh? Where did you get this from?
Russell19 · 27/08/2020 03:42

@raddledoldmisanthropist

I don't think your family were criticising you, I think it's very hard to explain the negative connotations of that name sensitively. I don't think they were unreasonable to flag up that naming her Chlamydia might cause some issues, no matter how pretty you think it is.
I remember a thread about calling the child Chlamydia.... wonder if it is the same OP
Girlzroolz · 27/08/2020 04:06

C’mon guys, really? Does a poster have to write lighthearted in order for everyone to get the joke?

GeorgiaGirl52 · 27/08/2020 04:17

When I was expecting my first DD, I made up a list of 20 names I liked and gave it to my DM to mark out any she really disliked. She gave me back a list with 20 names marked out and one write-in name (which was more a boy's name than a girl's)!
So I said, to heck with that, I am naming her -- and I named her the first name on the list of names I liked.

Ghoste · 27/08/2020 04:24

Tell your family to fuck off

Yes.

termtimeterror · 27/08/2020 05:47

Tell them you agree and were thinking of syphilis instead.

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