What is it like having a partner love you?

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Without an agenda. Just because they love YOU. With a pure heart and good intentions. I know what it's like to love - my DC, family, people I work with, etc. I love myself too.

Though I'm not sure I've ever had a partner truly love me. Care, respect, honesty, proper communication, trust, loyalty.

I've never had it. I think I may just resign myself to it never happening. The thing is though, is I know that I am loveable and capable of giving great love. Sometimes I wonder whether love is just an illusion.

Everything CorianderLord said! And pretty much what very other PP echoed. For me it's a feeling of being grounded and calm when he's around, that everything is that bit nicer when he's around, of knowing he's got my back and wants only the best for me. Plus he makes me laugh like a drain. He's also a bear hugger and being in his arms, especially when I'm low or anxious, is one of my happy places.

😞😞😞 these are all lovely. I've never had this (abusive marriage, now over, doing my best for my 3 children but wish so much I could have had this.)

It's exactly what I aspired to in my youth when I imagined my relationships / marriage.

It is good to know that it does exist for some people!

Love is rolling your eyes when you hear the same jokes that you have been hearing for the past 37 years without hitting him over the head with a rolling pin.

He’s my soul mate, my best friend and security. When he holds me there are no problems in the world! Married 18 years next year

What a great question!

I agree with a lot of PP, it's a sense of calm and security. It's feeling 100% safe with that person and trusting they will always go to the ends of the earth for you and vice versa. There's not a part of my OH I would want to change, and I know he accepts me flaws and all for exactly who I am.

I've had previous relationships where they have been fiery and passionate from day 1, that's what I used to think love was. Most of them ended up horribley (is that even a word?!) toxic and in my last relationship very abusive as well.

More lovely replies.

I know if I needed a kidney he’d offer his lol. He fancies me even when I think I look like shit, he tries to make my life nicer. We have each others back and I only fully trust 4 people and he’s one of them. I will support and stand behind him when he needs it and I know he will do the same. I think for me love is just knowing he will be there. If i piss him off he’ll still be there. We call each other our adventure partner.

It's like armour against everything bad in the world

I like the Elizabeth Barrett Browning quote, "I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you." Being loved changes me inside.

Yep to @ComtesseDeSpair because she nailed it 🙌 You've got to be suspicious of those people who post all their all consuming love online #myworld It's a bit like who are you trying to convince? Its so look at me and try hard. It's the same saying happy birthday to your child on Facebook when they aren't on Facebook, they are a 1 year old. Surely you write it's my lovely child's birthday here a super cake shot.

Anyway I digress. I love DH and DH loves me. Say it occasionally. I'm not dependent on him, he's bloody useless in a lot of ways. I don't think love is dependency, be your own person.

I do ask DH ‘do you love me enough to give me your big kidney?’ In a joking way as when I was drunk once I regained him with the fact that when you donate a kidney you donate the larger one. For some reason drink we found this hilarious when it isn’t at all. If found something we’ll say ‘watch that big kidney it’s mine!’ I love that wee have this wee joke together. We’ve gone through a lot.

My friend expects hearts and flowers and serenading and adoration then wonders why her relationships are superficial and don’t last once day to day life creeps in.

‘Zombie’ thread I know, but I don’t care lol
stumbled upon this checking something else up and I’m so glad I did.

These posts are all so heartwarming. Every single one. Makes a change from the usual cheating men posts etc. Thankfully I have got a good one too. OP you might have met someone at this stage and I hope u have. There is loads of good men out there.

Agree with above - safety, cozy. Like you're in a bubble together and the worlds outside the bubble. Two halves of a whole trundling along in the world secure in each other.