How did you deal with a psycho colleague?

[Elwynne]

Help, I work with someone who lies about everything and everyone and gets away with it even when there is proof she is lying. This is because my boss backs her up every single time and accuses anyone who raises a complaint against her of displaying bullying and aggressive behaviour. A psychologist friend said she thought the colleague displayed covert narcissist behaviour but this was a diagnosis made over a glass of wine, so could be wildly inaccurate. Have you ever faced this situation? What the hell did you do? Unfortunately, I cant leave the job because I'm pregnant.

So numerous colleagues have made numerous complaints about this person lying, ^with plenty of proof*, and your boss does nothing?

Is there anyone above your boss? It’s not on that your boss doesn’t have your back here.

Yes @RoadworksAgain the boss always turns it around to say whoever is accusing the colleague is a bully. It is baffling and makes you doubt yourself, so now lots of the team are afraid to complain.

@FourEyesGood that's a good plan but how do you brooch that without looking like you are creating problems?

If there are several of you who’ve experienced difficulty from this colleague, then either your boss has to start taking it seriously or you need to take it higher. I can’t advise you on how to do that because I don’t know the ins and outs of the situation or your work set-up (and even if I did, it’s not my area of expertise!), but you need to do something unless you want to dread going to work.

What has the colleague got over the boss?

This is because my boss backs her up every single time and accuses anyone who raises a complaint against her of displaying bullying and aggressive behaviour.

Then you need to raise a complaint against your boss.

Is the boss shagging the colleague, per chance? There seems to be clear favouritism, so I don't think you can "win" this, mostly just try to stay out of trouble, and quietly start looking for another job...

Just do you best to survive till your maternity leave, then forget about the madness.

Yes me! She was full on aggressive as in get in your face and bully the shit out of you. She’s been there for about 20 years and always assumed she would get one of the top spots. Was well known for her behaviour.

I always remember her asking to look at my eptopic scar as she didn’t believe me I’d just had an eotipic pregnancy. Years of bully I and a lot of people took.

I made a complaint to both her managers to no avail. Just made it worse.

I left.

I later found out that a new manager tried to get rid of her bit she took a massive demotion instead.

Just leave life is too short

Sounds like she’s either sleeping with the boss or blackmailing him. Not good. Unless you all go to he together with your union rep I doubt you’ll get anywhere.

I'm thinking they are shagging too.

I hope they're not shagging (not envy). Thanks for the advice everyone.

I used to work with one, an ex NHS bully and control freak. I went above her and our bosses head and built respect for myself with the big cheeses. They both hated me but I was good at my job and got on well with the management team.
I ended up leaving, offer I couldn't refuse much nearer home, just as they were both being managed out, I'm better off for it financially but I laugh when linked in suggests we should be 'friends' .

Cover yourself and try not to get involved. The narcissist will suspect that you have the measure of her. she will be turning on the charm with those she feels are influential and blackening your name with them. She will completely turn it around to make anyone who suspects her behaviour seem like a bully. If you absolutely have to stay there just keep your head down and limit your interaction with this person. You will be on her radar.