A very dull dilemma

[Spudlet]

So dull I am embarrassed to take the obvious action of asking the school...

So DS starts school next month. Obviously with one thing and another they couldn’t do the usual transition visits and things, so on the first day we are only going in for an hour for a little trip, then another trip on the Wednesday of that week, then they start with half days the following week.

So... do I put DS into his uniform for the two little visits?

You see, it’s so dull and trivial I can’t possibly ask his teacher without forever becoming That Mother (I probably will be That Mother eventually because DS has some additional needs and I suspect this may involve a fair few email exchanges and things, but I’m keeping my powder dry for as long as possible). But I just can’t decide!

I’m erring towards yes, to establish consistency with school equalling wearing uniform...

I’m so embarrassed that I can’t make my mind up

I would say yes uniform, but you need to get used to asking the teacher or you’ll only ever end up with second hand information from your child which will always be only half the information you need!

I would say yes to uniform!

I think Yes. I think they will be expected to wear uniform and I think it will be good for your ds to get used to wearing it.

I'd say yes too, so your dc knows & gets into the routine of school = uniform.

As an aside, I'm reasonably sure I'm "that" parent in my dd's class but I don't care. I'd rather know what's what than not have a clue or not deal with stuff as it comes up 🤷‍♀️

With one thing & another I don't think it's a daft question to ask anyway.

Is DS excited to be starting & wearing his uniform?

Personally I would have just assumed they'd be in uniform, so I'd go with that, no harm done if it's optional, but I can't see why it would be.

If DS has issues around clothing & you know the uniform will cause issues, then I'd take him in PE kit if he'll wear that happily
It home clothes if not.

But tbh, especially with a child with additional needs you really need to not worry about talking to the teacher - it's NOT what makes people THAT mother, it's really not!

I hope he enjoys himself.

Yes totally uniform that little chap.

I do understand you asking. It's one of these things that seems unimportant and obvious when you are well seasoned in the ways of school. But when you are unsure and anxious of just getting things right, it's actually quite important. On world book Day my DCs dress up. They ask me about 10 times each if I am sure it's world book Day. It's massively tedious but it shows how important to them it is that they are in the right outfit!

Right, that’s unanimous - uniform it is. Thanks guys. I was half afraid I’d get reams of pfb sneery comments in all honesty!

I tried all his uniform (bar shoes - that’s this week’s job) on him, and had a devil of a job getting it on. But he then refused to take it off, so hopefully he’ll be ok with it...! He looked so tiny, and also grownup all at once. 😢