What's the best relationship advice you have ever received

[JustOneLastThing]

Mine has been to try and remember to love what you have, and to try not to worry about the little things.

And, recent events have taught me that when a relationship has ran it's course, the acceptance of this fact will make you stronger.

N.b divorced this year, but now in a healthy relationship with DP.

My own mantra.
Never on Gods green fucking earth be like my own parents.
Don’t settle for any shite, if there’s a hint of any shinanegans then get out right there and then.

I’m difficult to please and steadfast, do not put up with any single crumb of shit behaviour.

I chose my husband very very carefully.

Don’t chase a man who doesn’t want you.

Learn how to understand how each other shows their live as there are different ‘languages’ of love

Be friends before lovers. My husband is the person I love spending time with, he makes me laugh and its helped through the bad times. Friends care and respect each other and want the best for them.

Always retain some level of independence. Whether that's financially, friendships, hobbies etc.

You never know what's around the corner, so always have a backup plan when it all goes sour.

What helped my relationship the most was listening to my aunts when I was about 15 talk about their struggles and how they'd been close to divorce 3 times through their 30 year marriage.
Made me realise as an adult that you have to work at an relationship and their will be highs and lows

‘If they wanted to, they would’.

Also, ‘when someone is showing you who they are, believe them!’. If only I’d been aware of that, wasted years hoping men would change and things would get better.

If you have gone to bed angry with each other, just stretch out your foot and make contact with theirs before you fall asleep.

Never ever say something you can't unsay! Once it's out there, it's out there!

You can't change anyone else's behaviour, you can only change your own reaction to their behaviour.

And another one ... you are responsible for your own happiness ... yes, it's nice to have a partner but don't be over reliant or needy.

Happy wife, happy life

Trust your gut... in my experience its rarely wrong , you can try and rationalise bad behaviour but your instincts will never lead you wrong.

Keep your financial independence.
When he shows you who he is, believe him!

Marry someone who loves you more than you love him.

My parents received this from their taxi man on the night they got married, and they passed it on to me.

One purse, no secrets, and never go to bed without resolving an argument.

Not to focus on if you have a right to feel aggrieved. Just, do you feel aggrieved. Full stop.
Same for Let Down, De-valued, Taken Advantage of...

Treat your husband as you do your best friends.

I try to remember that when I'm becoming impatient or frustrated with him; what would I do if it was my friend and not him? Would I still speak in that tone of voice or with those choice of words? Usually not.

Know your own value, don't let anyone treat you as less than you are worth.

Never lower your standards to meet someone else's.

You deserve to be lived and cherished, as does your partner.

A man is not the prize of a woman's life.

Love is like a fart. If you have to force it, it's probably shit.

Men are not an endangered species.

Never get your honey where you get your money

If you can't be as (or more!) generous to your partner as you can to your friends, something is wrong

Nothing changes if nothing changes.

Eine Frau ohne Mann ist wie ein Fisch ohne Fahrrad.

Together 34 years last week, though.