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tmi partners bowel problems keep being fobbed off by doctors

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Mallooby · 24/08/2020 20:22

Hi all, i'm at the end of my tether with this.. my partner started having issues going to the toilet around 3 months ago. It seems to get better for a few days and then get worse again in a cycle around and around and the doctors don't want to do anything about it due to coronavirus. He hates ringing them at the best of times and has rang them four times just to be told to eat more fibre and drink more water, he's been doing that and it's making absolutely no difference.. we've been through every over the counter remedy.. lactulose sennacot the suppositories none of it makes a difference.

At first i thought it was just internal piles but now he's in pain at the bottom of his back and his stomach, one side of his stomach feels hard and he's losing weight because he doesn't feel like eating and there's a lot of blood and mucus(sorry tmi) when he does try to go.. rang the docs again earlier, told he'd get a call back and no one rang. I know with the virus there's not wanting to see people unless they really have too but if i google his symptoms it seems pretty obvious to me that he needs to be seen especially since everything we've tried so far hasn't worked. He's so down with the pain and in all honesty i'm sick of living with him moping about because he can't pooSad

I'm ringing the doctors tomorrow and can't promise i won't lose my rag with them, does this seem right to anyone else or do you think he should be seen?

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MistressMounthaven · 24/08/2020 21:24

The weight loss is serious - exaggerate if necessary but also make sure they know how tall he is. And explain he has lost this weight very recently. That should be enough to get him in for tests.

BanditsBum · 24/08/2020 21:25

We have similar issues with DH - different symptoms but the point is the same i.e. doctors don't want to know and won't see him.

We have decided that the next time it gets bad he is going straight to A&E.

I dread to think of the volume of people left untreated due to Covid.

onlyreadingneverposting8 · 24/08/2020 21:32

More likely to be colitis (esp if the blood is bright red - bright red is rarely cancer) than cancer so don't panic. He needs bloods, stool sample and colonoscopy- fast if there is a lot of blood and weight loss! He should be seen as a 2 week referral but don't be frightened to go to A&e. My eldest ds (17) was dx in January with colitis (pancolitis so it's his entire bowel). He ended up being admitted via A&E as the GP was sodding useless! At which point he was severely anaemic, underweight (lost 9kg in 7ish weeks) and on the verge of collapse.

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PomBearWithoutHerOFRS · 24/08/2020 21:52

My dad had bowel issues, and by the time he managed to get the GP to take him seriously it was terminal. This was as he lost SEVEN stone in four months! MAKE A FUSS! Please!

cocodomingo · 24/08/2020 21:56

He needs to be vocal and say he is worried about cancer..dont let the Gp not consider this..atleast they can then send him for diagnostics under the 2 week wait for urgent referrals to exclude cancer

Frlrlrubert · 24/08/2020 21:59

BIL was passing blood and they fobbed him off, did some blood work and said it all looked ok. So he left it for 6 months before going back.

Yep, cancer. Thankfully after chemotherapy and radiotherapy the tumour shrank enough for them to operate just before lockdown. He had some follow up chemo (which made him very ill so they ended it early) and seems like he's been lucky.

His monitoring appointments keep getting cancelled and reversing his stoma is on hold indefinitely due to the crisis, but he's very lucky he went back when he did.

Please don't leave this OP.

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