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9 years old with concentration and focus problems

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Madremia2019 · 23/08/2020 19:29

Will try explain as much, but please excuse my English. DD is 9 and has been very difficult for couple years, she has been assessed and ruled out any SEN, but I am looking to assessing her privately for dyslexia/dyspraxia/dyscalculia ( school also ruled that out) She is sassy and smart mouth, she can’t concentrate or focus on homework/homeschooling ( tutors told me that she has poor concentration, but is progressing) I have to tell her off or explaining how important is for her to study to see her apply to anything . She rushes her homework if done alone and spends a hour trying get away from doing any relate homeschooling/homework. I tried to explained to her that we can be done quick if she gets on with ( 10 minutes of homework became 1 hour with the outbursts). Couple days ago she started shouting that she wants to die and kill herself! I got very much upset with her and had a awful day as I had to ignore her at same time make sure she was safe. All that because she didn’t spend all day on iPad. She wakes up early (6:30, no matter what time she goes to bed) and rushes to her IPad she stays until the battery dies. If I call for anything study relate she will kick off , after 2 hours on ipad her brain doesn’t work and she can’t process anything , she forgets what she learned the week before or doesn’t read the question properly and gets all answers wrong( she is going to year 5) , if I cut the iPad out and give a time like late afternoon, she spends all day making my life hell until I give in. The best time for us to get homework out of the way is in the morning, but she sees to not understand that she can have the rest of the day free. Does anyone with a 8/9 years old child without SEN related, has problems with they concentration and focus ? How did you deal with this? I know if I give up on her she will fail miserable, as the same teachers that says she doesn’t have a special need also says she needs to focus and progressing.

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bashcrashfall · 23/08/2020 19:52

Who was she assessed by? My son's school said they didn't think he had any SEN but an educational psychologist has said he has dyspraxia and fairly significant sensory needs - he basically can't sit still which impacts his concentration. He also has to put so much effort into the physical act of writing because of the dyspraxia that he struggles with spelling and just rushes things in as few words as possible.

bashcrashfall · 23/08/2020 19:54

And yes to huge irrational tantrums, self harm and occasionally threats to self harm, comments he wants to die. We've had those as well. No-one is particularly concerned though. I haven't even bothered applying to CAMHS as I'm aware the wait will be years, if they even offer him any support at all.

Madremia2019 · 23/08/2020 20:20

Hi, how old is you son? We been to CAMHS and the child psychologist said that she does see to have any SEN and also said they don’t diagnose Dyslexia or Dyspraxia, I had to beg for her to be send a referral to OT, still waiting for a appointment. Can I ask you what you think to do to help him ? Did the EP gave you any help in get a diagnosis?

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threecats333 · 23/08/2020 20:43

I wouldn't rule out high functioning autism and/or Attention Deficit Disorder. Both underdiagnosed with the more quiet children who are generally well behaved but struggle to concentrate. Doesn't sound like a full assessment for SEN has been undertaken - can you afford a private diagnosis?

Madremia2019 · 23/08/2020 20:50

Will do one with the dyslexia group, but don’t know where I can get one with add , I contacted CAMHS again to assess for it, as she tick some boxes. She is quite good with strangers and polite.

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