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Doimatter · 23/08/2020 18:31

sorry this may be long.

My daughter is in a domestic violence relationship. She has told me some of things he has done although probably not everything. I know that he has slapped and punched her. Hes had her by her throat and bitten her. We also got information from Claires law found out hes been involved with toturture. Breaking into girl friends homes and locking them in. It was also said hes done the same stuff as he has to my daughter.

She said she was leaving him but she wanted to do it slowly. Because she's scared of what could happen. She did become distant with him as she was with me alot. She also told him it can't work. And picked him up on the stuff he had done to her. He said the classic stuff. I go blank I can't remember doing it. I will get help. I love you. I will kill myself he even went on a video call cutting his wrists. Another time he was going to hang himself in the woods. The latest was to throw himself infront of a train. Each time she told him shes not interested.

There has been arguing on the phone shouting telling him she's not going there again. She told him they can't work long term as social services have said her son is not allowed near him so its impossible to have a long term relationship.

As much as she has had arguments shes also had long friendly chats with him. As well and shes also lied to me or withheld information. And shes now seeing him again.

At the moment her son is with me.

I'm supporting her best i can. I know she wanted help/support in moving from where she lives. But at the moment I don't see any point in helping her as she's likely to tell him where she is.

Shes had contact with domestic violence help lines and briefly looked into refuge.

Shes under early help which I think is linked to social services.

She also has a personality disorder.

I'm worried sick about her. About what's happening to her. Im also worried she could end up loosing her son through this.

I don't really know what I'm looking for just to write it down i guess.

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WaltzfortheMars · 23/08/2020 20:26

I am so sorry this is happening to you and your dd. Sorry I don't have any good advice, but hopefully some people with experience comes along. Flowers

Doimatter · 24/08/2020 13:10

Thank you waltz. Just have to keep going and hope there's a change.

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