What bits of adulthood do you find shit?

[Iwonder777]

Mine is shopping - specially food shopping.

I remember reading as a child that children laugh 50 times a day and adults 3 times a day on average.

I truly couldn't get my head around only laughing three times a day. I remember being so shocked.

And yet here I am. Some days I probably don't laugh at all.

Interesting reading these - a lot of them are mostly about tasks that go specifically with parenthood, and one of the things that completely put me off the thought of having children was the endless drudgery (of course I understand that most parents get a lot of joy from their DCs too).

There are many things I dislike doing, ironing, emptying the dishwasher, dealing with energy suppliers all spring to mind, but I much prefer being an adult to being a child, and always have. And now I'm retired, it's fan-bloody-tastic!

Food. The mental load of thinking what to make, shopping for it, cooking it, clearing up afterwards. The kids asking ‘what’s for dinner, Mum?’ day after day.

The responsibility of the house, the cleaning, the food, the kids, their schooling, the two with Sen, my part time job. I feel exhausted.

What I hate most is the laundry, cleaning and probably all of the relentless household chores. Food shopping I don't mind so much!
But also organising everything and having to keep on top of everything like car and house maintenance and insurances and boring shit like that. It just takes up so much headspace.
I'm single and I'm not looking for a partner, but sometimes I wish there were another adult in the house just to take on half of all that drudgery that I never seem to get out of.

The endless monotony of routine. Get up, tidy the shit out of the house, cook and care for children all day, field their arguments, the endless washing and ironing, putting them to bed at night and trying to get them to shut the fuck up and stay there.
And all there is to look forward to at the end of the day is flopping in to my own pit for a few hours of broken sleep worrying how to make ends meet before it all starts again.

It makes me feel better to see that other people feel that way. I sometimes think that I must be doing something wrong, that I have missed out on some secret to living without all the cooking, housework, constant life admin (buying stuff, appointments, etc etc).

Stupid admin-6 phone calls to sort car insurance for example.
Being responsible.
Having to work.
Bills

When you're ill but you have to carry on parenting/working, knowing that x years ago you'd have climbed into bed and gone to sleep until you felt better. I love most things about adulthood but the "Lemsip and crack on" thing continues to grate.

I'm single and I'm not looking for a partner, but sometimes I wish there were another adult in the house just to take on half of all that drudgery that I never seem to get out of.

As a fellow singleton, I couldn't bear the thought of living with another adult. In my personal experience, they create just as much mess as a child and only do half a job cleaning it up, meaning more work for me. I know what you mean though, it would be nice to have someone to take care of stuff when you're too worn down yourself.

I hate being the only one who ever organises anything - what's for tea, what should we do, what needs doing/buying/sorting/planning ...

I'm just sick of all the decisions (and therefore all of the blame) being mine!

@sleepymouse

Thinking of what to cook for dinner...every night

SAME

Also, the feelings of stress & pressure that arise for me when my values & ambitions don't match what society deems I'm "supposed" to be striving for

All of it although I'm single so I dont have to worry about anyone else's pants on the floor I guess.

Diy and organising repair work. Gardening.

It’s a repeat of what ppl have said but for me one of the main things is having to go on when you are ill. Some of that is probably my own fault but some of it is just being an adult. I had Covid earlier in the year and looking back I did feel quite awful (didn’t know it was Covid do now as had an antibody test at work) anyhoo I remember thinking “fuck me I feel absolutely awful” and then making the kids lunch and doing the dishwasher!
Also when you get home and just want a piece of toast and to go to bed but no you are responsible so have to continue.

The relentlessness of the fucking housework.

Having to ring people.

The sense of never being off duty.

The shock of realising that we don’t have anything like equality between men/women and that, since having DC, DH is fine with me doing way more than my fair share of domestic work and doesn’t wish to do anything to compromise his working life.

The first bit.

All the thinking
The worrying about birthday

All your old friends moving away and maybe seeing them once a year if you're lucky I remember when we were younger we'd be in the pub most nights

@KylieKangaroo You took the words right outta my mouth. I'm mid 30s and this has been going on for the past 5 years. Can't bear it any longer and it's only just started!

@crustacean7 I'm glad it's not just me! It's so sad isn't it!

@KooKooKachu

I'm single and I'm not looking for a partner, but sometimes I wish there were another adult in the house just to take on half of all that drudgery that I never seem to get out of.

As a fellow singleton, I couldn't bear the thought of living with another adult. In my personal experience, they create just as much mess as a child and only do half a job cleaning it up, meaning more work for me. I know what you mean though, it would be nice to have someone to take care of stuff when you're too worn down yourself.

KooKoo ha ha I know what you mean - that's why I'm not actually looking for or wanting a partner. In my personal opinion most men are shit at adulting and looking for a woman to do it for them. But hypothetically it would be nice to have someone else to carry the weight every now and again!

As a parent echo everything.
Sometimes you're just so tired after work and just want to come home and get your jammies on and have an early night but you can't.
Feeling ill and not getting a break.
The groundhog feeling of the day.
Wishing my children to be older so it gets better but it doesn't really does it?
Working to pay bills and then having no money for you.
Yep, being an adult and a parent is pretty full on.

The responsibility and having to do all the thinking, planning and decision making.
Everything to do with food and washing up too.