I'm done

[Readyfordrowning]

I've changed names for this but I've been here for years.

I'm done. I really can't do this anymore. I'm stuck in a marriage where I'm not sure we like each other anymore. Another argument tonight ended in him throwing his tablet down at force and storming off to bed.

Its relentless. There is no escape. My DD can see his bad side but I think my DS would want to stay with him if we split. I couldn't cope with that.

Over half my life I have spent trying to make everyone happy but its all just a failure

I know this wont achieve anything but need to get it out into the universe.

I'm 40 and feel life is over

Hi, OP, we could have a competitive shitness thread, a kind of 4 Yorkshiremen thread.

My wonderful dm died a bit over a month ago. My beloved df a couple of years ago. I feel like you about my dh.

dc2 off to start uni in a few weeks, which will be a huge wrench.

It's all shit, isn't it.

I'll give you a hug as that's about all I can offer.

Oh, and the reminder that you're only 40!! You are young and probably have some hormones!

Well timed thread, sorry you’ve had a shit night. I’ve spent the night in tears. Going through divorce, family home just been sold, trying to find new home for me and realisation hit that this is it. I have two DCs off to uni in a month and I’ll be alone. I’ve spent the last 23 years as a busy Mum, working part time full life, supporting ex DHs career and it’s all over. I’m fed up of trying to be cheery and positive. It’s all really shit and I’m facing a lonely old age. You have my sympathy

I think you need to make a plan. If you and your H are capable of doing it, you need to sit down and talk about what's going on. You either need to agree to split or for him to stop treating you badly.

If you can't get him to talk about it then you need to decide what you want out of life. Do you really want to stay in a bad relationship for the sake of the children? Your DS might decide to be with his dad but you will still be his mum and I'm sure he'll remember who invested time and love.

Your life isn't over just because your relationship comes to an end and please don't think that. You have 2 children that will always need you.