People have no bloody manners anymore

[madcatladyforever]

I was asked to arrange a personal life event at my house (can't be more specific as it's outing but I'd be acting as the official - think naming ceremony type thing but not that).
Ok I was pleased to be asked. I arranged the food, bought the gifts, bought wine, decorations, asked guests to book time off work which they all did and I booked time off work. Lot of work and effort as I was half way through decorating my house and had to rush all of that through as well.
Got a text not even a phone call last night literally the day before to say we don't want to do this after all. We'll do it on another date, it isn't convenient for us now.
I'm absolutely livid, all that work down the drain, not to mention cost and a holiday from work I don't want.
They certainly will not be doing the event with me again ever at a time of their convenience or any other time.
I can't believe people can be so very rude and ignorant. There are two more people off my friends list.

I just needed a rant somewhere anonymous.

You need to charge them for the food, decorations and your wasted time!

That's so rude! I would give them a heads-up that the wine, food etc cost x amounts so that they can budget accordingly and see if that prompted them to offer to pay. Or just tell them exactly what it has cost you in time, effort and money and you would like at least the money back!

Presumably they’re aware of the time and money factors? I’d send them a bill.

You need to list out what you have done so they understand the work you put in. The person sounds like they don’t comprehend this.

'Presumably they’re aware of the time and money factors? I’d send them a bill.'

Most definitely send them a bill. The cheeky fuckers

You don need to reply and point out everything you've said in your OP. With costs.
CFs continue to be CFs because people don't pull them up on their behaviour. The British way seems to be to seethe quietly but never actually challenge the behaviour (I'm Scottish before anyone comes for me). Please do make it very clear just how much inconvenience this has caused.
And if it was a baptism, drown the fuckers

Tell them you need paying for the wasted food, what a bunch of CFs. Did they give a proper reason for this bollocks?

All the guests had booked time off work! I hope all the guests send this person a message saying how annoyed they are!

Just spotted the username - OP, set your cats on them!

You are right OP, they don't (generally speaking). If they are genuinely off your friends' list do please tell them exactly what you think of them, however if they have that much brass neck they will probably just shrug it off.

Are you a mohel?

What did you reply?

I would tell them how much time and effort you’ve put in and they owe you for all the food and drink wasted too. I wouldn’t keep it all a secret either I’d be telling anybody who’s available to listen.

Wow.

What did you reply?

Are you at all worried about them - is there something terrible going on in their life that’s caused the need to cancel so last minute?

I’d be asking them what they’d like me to do with the food and decorations, and telling them how much it cost with bank details.

How about you carry on without them, and have a great time, and send them the bill.

I would send them a bill including the amount of losing pay from work. Infact even consider Small Claims Court if they don't pay up.

If you’re done with them in any case (and I completely agree you should be) I would 100% send them a bill.

I wonder what the other guests are thinking.

You didn't see it coming? Not by the behaviour? No help with anything. I would have gotten uncomfortable with this much faster than you. Sorry for your wasted time. It is extremely rude.

I hope they're the ones that will be contacting all the guests and cancelling on them. That's appalling.

I'd have been straight on the phone for an explanation!

Send them a bill for the food/drink and other expenditure.

So rude to text and not call.

Wonder what has happened to make them cancel at short notice? Or do they have form?

I'd have the party without them. Saves wasting the food/drink/effort you've gone to. And I'd make sure everyone attending knew what arseholes they are!