Evening I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years. We moved in together last year. I have 3 stepchildren who come most weekends and 1 son together. He dosent like our son having tantrams and shouts at me everytime he has won as it my fault as I am too soft with him. He is generally horrible to me and calls me stupit for not having a good job like him!!! He dosent like my friends or my other son who now wont come over to visit because they dont get on. He has called me names like bxitch and thick. Yes I am softer than him with out son but he is sick of it and being the bad cop and says most days that he wants us out as wants peace and quiet. I have no family here and dont want to start again if they can be avoided. I have been though it once in my life and it's a big decision although am coming close to leaving. He makes me feel horrible like I am stupit oh and also fat. He has never hit me as such but has had me against the wall a couple of times and also thrown things across the room. It's like walking on egg shells. My ex husband used to hit me so am not at that level but am really stuck to what to do. We have moved into a really expensive house and things have gone from bad to worse. 