Have you ever banned someone from your home?

[AmberTurnerCo]

Back when I was a child there was a few of my friends my mum banned from coming round

An ex (boyfriend at the time) invited his friend round and not only did the friend light up a cigarette he actually flicked the ash onto my floor I kicked him out then and there and banned him from ever coming back

My MIL. I finally had enough of her shit.

Only once when dd was about 12. A friend of hers made racist comments. My dh told her off at the time and she thought that he was joking. I told my dd after she left that she could not come into the house again. To be fair my dd was as shocked as we were and distanced herself from her.

My ds's fwb... He was 24 and she was abusive and vile.
He dumped her for good after she went shagging in Ibiza and told him all the details.

My MILs husband is banned from our house. He is a narcissist, alcoholic and a wide beater. She refuses to leave him. We have offered to help but she doesn’t want the embarrassment of another divorce.

He is not welcome anywhere near DD. SILs think we are being unfair. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Such is life

My aunt.
I was in my 20s ,my mother was dying and I had moved back home to be with my dad and brother.
She was a horrible woman always giving out especially to her own brothers and sisters.
I arrived back from the hospital one day and found my dad crying after one of her tirades.
I called her and told her she was never to call again.
It felt great .

A friends husband. He picked up my early teenage daughter with His hands under her arms and round her chest and carried her out of the room. I’d told her and the other children to play elsewhere and she didn’t leave fast enough for him. When she angrily told him to put her down and that he had couldn’t do that to her, he turned around and told me she “needed a good slap”. Creepy fucking bully. They are divorced now but I don’t think my friend has any idea how much everyone hated him and how much they loved her.

My mil

A friend of a friend. I have posted this before, but she was couch surfing for years (and still is) because she was quite shallow and materialistic and prioritised pretty shiny expensive things over her rent /bills and ended up losing her home. She took the piss out of my very modest at the time, place because I relied on second hand stuff until I could afford nice things . I took umbrage. She also had grown up children who struggled with their lives and she could offer them no safety net. I felt sorry for her but she lacked self awareness and sympathy for others.

There are people I prefer not to have over my threshold and have told dh if they come in, I leave.

My dil, she is one evil witch, if I never see her again it will be too soon.

When we moved into our home l banned one of my husbands friends who brought his “girlfriend” with him, l was expecting to see his wife with him. The “girlfriend” knew about the wife and didn’t care. His wife is lovely and has now after 10 years seen the light and left him apparently it was an open secret. My husband is still friends with him we don’t socialise with him or new bride to be, thankfully lm not on the invasion for the safe the date, that’s one less wedding thread next year.The man turns my stomach.

Yes. A formerly very close friends daughter who was quite happily stealing my stuff. She was in her late teens at the time.

I once kindly let my brother and SIL stay in my flat for a couple of weeks whilst they were moving and waiting on the new place. As a thank-you SIL rearranged all my kitchen cupboards because she thought I’d find them easier to manage that way. It took me ages to get them back how I wanted. About a year later I let them stay again while I was on holiday and they fancied a break (I was central London. And she painted all my recently fitted hardwood skirting boards duck-egg blue because she thought it would look nice.

She is now banned from being in my home when I am not there!

I banned a guest who overstayed his welcome, was making a mess, eating all my food and drinking all my expensive drinks.

I banned a guest that stole from me.

I banned another guest that overstayed and started moving more of their stuff in.

I banned my daughter's friend who stole from her and was pressurising her to swap her things.

Ils have been banned for years!

My husband and I have silently banned one of my friends and her family from staying again. She lets her kids run amok, dumps toys for them in the most imaginative of places (middle of the kitchen floor whilst we're cooking?), and treats the place as if it were her own home (that she keeps an appalling shit tip).

She's nice enough on her own (or other's!) territory but never again.