Noisy eating husband please help!

[JoanofLarks]

As the title says. My husband eats noisily. I thought it was me being intolerant so I didn't mention it but now my tween dd is getting seriously upset at every meal time because of it and my older teen Mr Laid Back son has also privately commented to me that his Dad manages to make every food sound incredibly loud.
We've had to put the radio on during meal times. It's been brought up in a very general, not mentioning names way and my husbands comment was that he was brought up with the idea that eating enthusiastically was a compliment to the chef. (He is British, middle England, middle class). Please can anyone help or at least sympathise?!

I can sympathise. I’ve had to go in another room this evening vis of OH’s eating. I frequently have to do this.

I move as well. It’s bloody rude

This is my red line....noisy eaters ....grounds for divorce in my book, I actually can't bear them.

I think lockdown has made this worse for us. My DH slurps tea and coffee and it irritates the fuck out of me. I have to get up and leave the room some days otherwise I'll lose my temper and then feel very guilty afterwards!

I just feel like it's about to cause world war three or we'll all end up with eating at different times or in different places.

my husbands comment was that he was brought up with the idea that eating enthusiastically was a compliment to the chef

Don't know where he got that idea from, noisy eating isn't a compliment to anyone.

Does he know how bad he is, have you recorded him? Noisy eaters put me off my food so I couldn't be in the same room and can understand why your dd is getting upset. It's unfair on the rest of you, can you relegate him to eat somewhere else on his own in a shed at the bottom of the garden perhaps?

I think this is something you have to learn to live with. He's not doing it on purpose.
It makes me sad when people suck crisps to not make a noise eating them.

My husband the same, eats like a camel and we did actually separate at one point due to his cereal eating, he pushed the cereal down at the edges of the bowl CONTINUALLY until he finished the giant bowl, it wakes everyone up and that's without the slurping.

Luckily he works late so unless we are out for a meal he eats alone!
My dd who's just 8 can't sit opposite him 🤣

My DH makes awful eating sounds. He chews very quickly and greedily, and it sounds very.... moist.

Few things are worse than noisy eaters. He's rude and needs to make an effort to stop. But he can only do that if you tell him how sickening it is.

Why is this only annoying you now?
I’m really intolerant of noisy eating and wouldn’t have got past the first meal. It makes me irrationally angry, I can’t bear it.

I couldn’t put up with that. I’d have to eat separately. Noisy eating is one of my pet hates.

Why are you not just discussing it with him? He may be able to fix this if you don’t have a go at him.

How did you all bring yourselves to marry these men? I just couldn't! And the embarrassment if you're out.

Noisy eating is intolerable for me. I worked with a lady that was so bad for it that no one wanted lunch breaks with her! Our supervisor had to have a gentle word with her xx

Have you spoken to him about it?
Tell him to knock it off or he can go and eat in front of the telly.

It is lucky that your DC are not copying him. That would be so bad.

We have brought it up, and my tween has had a couple of bog shouts about it (she totally had a point and I was a gnats arse from joining in). I've generally mentioned it. He gets massively defensive, passive aggressive and ultimately nothing changes. I did marry him and either love was blind and very deaf or it’s got worse (do beards make it worse?). Yes lockdown means no one really gets a break. We're both working from home and it's become very much ljke Charlotte and Mr Collins, spending as much time as possible in totally different rooms.

Ds1 and I are both autistic and have very sensitive ears. We have music on for evening meals which mostly works, but if Ds is feeling particularly anxious and unable to tolerate it he's allowed to eat in his room if he wishes. When the DC are at their dad's Dp and I eat tea in front of the telly and I have to get something on quick before the chewing starts!