Hey guys
So I’m 32 weeks pregnant been with my partner 6 years I really need some advice I’m sorry if this turns into a rant but I have to let it off my chest as I have no where else to do it.
My partner has worked away from home and for the first few years we had a long distance relationship. His family have not bothered with him for 13 years not because they ever fell out but because they have always looked at him as a black sleep of the family and tbh are just lazy. I for years tried to get them to bother with my partner But as fast as the same day it faded out . His mum and I got along great we would always go out for lunch dates, text, family gatherings I was always invited however after a few years the contact stopped with me for an unknown reason.
My partner has now been Permanently home for a year his mum has never Came to see him or called him etc (she’s very close with the rest of her children) he called her 4 months into being home after not speaking for the best part of 13 years to ask how she was and explained I was pregnant she completely ignored what he said and changed the subject so he began talking about the baby again and once again she ignored him and did not Acknowledge the baby (her grandson) obviously this annoyed me.
As the months have went on I have sent his mum scan photos to keep her in the loop with the baby which she has ignored.
My partner text her saying she needs to start bothering with us both more which she read and ignored.
Last week We went to see his brother who was at his mums.. his mum came running out hugged my partner and ignored me like I was not even there did not even look at me so I sat in the car my partner noticed what she did and asked me if I was ok but never said anything to his mum and since this he has been going round there more I don’t feel annoyed at the fact he’s seeing his mum I’m annoyed at the fact he is allowing his family to treat me and him for that matter like this and he says he doesn’t say anything because he can’t be bothered to listen to it.
He said to me he asked why she ignored me last week and she said to him that she said hello to me and my partner accepted what she said And called me saying that she did say hello I must of not heard despite him witnessing On the day what she done because he came to me asking if I was ok.
I must add that it’s not only his mum who does this his brothers and sister also do it and he makes excuses for them.
I feel so angry and hurt I was the one who pushed for them all to reconnect and I’m the one who has made sure they got a scan picture of there grandson/nephew yet it’s my feelings who are constantly getting hurt because it’s getting to the point because I say it’s upsetting me to my partner it’s making us fall out.
I feel like because my partner Is not saying anything to them they are thinking it’s okay to do it more to me and there getting away with it.
I’m annoyed because when they have never been there for my partner I was the one who always picked up the pieces and helped him. My family absolutely loveS the bones off my partner and if there was ever once a situation They ignored him and did not say a simple “hello” id be the first to say “are you not going to say hello to ”
This is my first child what should I do once he’s here I don’t want to be known as that horrible person who does not allow my child to see them he’s here in less then 8 weeks and at this moment in time I do not want them anywhere near my child as they have not Acknowledged me or my baby from the moment I told them I was pregnant.
Advice please so sorry how long winded this is I needed to let it off my chest and I have no one else to voice this to it’s putting a huge strain on my relationship and I can’t help but begrudge my partner when he goes there now because they are literally getting away with how there treating me. Like I said at the top we’ve always got along great but they randomly started blanking me when i see them