Help! Hamster shredded precious blanket

[Mij]

Oh god, DD2 11 (severe anxiety) accidentally left absolute favourite blanket too close to hammie cage, and hammie somehow got hold of a fold and has irreparably shredded the middle of it. It was pretty much pristine (washes incredibly well) and I'm currently hiding it in the hope I can track one down as I used to see other people with them.
I'm stalking eBay obvs but posting on the off chance anyone is thinking of moving theirs on 😔

Jesus how snotty can you be? Good luck OP. Perhaps see if eBay also sells anything on improving communication and politeness...

@PigglyWigglyWoo

I was going to come on and offer some suggestions, including where one might be found, but you’ve been so rude to other posters I won’t waste my time now.

Same.

I was looking for one, but considering the recent developments I am giving up now.

Try taking a few photos and use them to search google. Sometimes manufacturers make the same items for multiple brands. You might find it under a different brand.

Accounts - I name changed once to put something personal up, then the app changed, it defaulted to the wrong one and I've never been able to consistently remember to retype the one I'd rather use. I'm in a rush, always. Club neurodiversiry here.

Response - how is me saying 'I'm sure you mean well but that wasn't the help I asked for' snarky? Genuine question. Tone is hard to gauge in both directions but some of those responses sounded super 'let me tell you how you're doing it wrong'. And just as you didn't intend to upset someone, neither did I in my response.

The original question - even if people misunderstood my original post, I still didn't ask people's opinion about how to tackle it with my DD. I was pretty clear I thought I was just trying to track down a blanket.

And: yes I know ASD isn't the same as anxiety - as I have years of experience with both - but some of the management/support techniques overlap, including the ones I cited ie timing and semantics

I'm only here because eBay and google have nothing. It would rarely be my first port of call and I've seen other people be really helpful with lost toys/objects etc

@DishRanAwayWithTheSpoon

Well tbf you havent given anything to go on to help you find the blanket like make, where and when you bought it

How can you expect people to help you when you are rude?

I posted the photos and then the make underneath. I posted one response where I directly said I was sure people had good intentions. On an incredibly shitty day I just didn't need loads of people telling me I was doing something wrong, when I wasn't actually doing that anyway and was literally just trying to track down a loved object for a kid who is already epically struggling with her mental health.

It may now be outing to post on here, unless you ask the admin to do it (I believe that’s how it works)

m.facebook.com/LittleBlueCup/

Regardless of OP's attitude it looks like some posters are willing to let a child struggle rather than help. Not just that but they're quite proud and crowing about it too , that they could've helped but now they won't.Grown ass women doing the "well now I don't want to" routine.

Yeah... it's not OP who is the dick.

OP can you give any more details besides the pics and that is was a baby blanket from Mamas & Papas?

Have you tried emailing their customer service/tweeting them to see if they have any left over stock/can give you the manufacturer's name/suggest other places that might have it?

@ComeOnBabyPopMyBubble

Regardless of OP's attitude it looks like some posters are willing to let a child struggle rather than help. Not just that but they're quite proud and crowing about it too , that they could've helped but now they won't.Grown ass women doing the "well now I don't want to" routine.

Yeah... it's not OP who is the dick.

OP can you give any more details besides the pics and that is was a baby blanket from Mamas & Papas?

Have you tried emailing their customer service/tweeting them to see if they have any left over stock/can give you the manufacturer's name/suggest other places that might have it?

Thanks.

It's a very recent discovery so not yet, was going to try during office hours though.

[quote User43210]It may now be outing to post on here, unless you ask the admin to do it (I believe that’s how it works)

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Thank you will take a look

Whoa I don’t think you were rude at all OP. I thought the posters basically ignoring your question and giving their ‘oh silly hamster’ advice were not particularly helpful in assuming they knew a better course of action for your child than you did. And as for the people coming on to say ‘oh I was going to help but you don’t deserve it now’, how unbelievably petty. If that’s how you feel just say nothing at all rather than kick the OP when she’s down.

Good luck finding a replacement OP - hope it works out for you.

People like me didn't suggest you were doing something 'wrong' - they read your post as asking general advice about replacing the blanket and you were dismissive and rude. It's not a huge deal but your tone was objectively dismissive and rude when people posted in good faith with kindness and sympathy for what is an unfortunate situation, for example I said it's rubbish when this stuff happens and poor you. That's not me telling you you're parenting wrong, it's me empathising. Don't assume the worst of people. If I knew where you could get a replacement I absolutely would share that as it's heartbreaking when kids lose their favourite stuff, so I do really hope you find a replacement / solution for your girl.

@Hiphopopotamus

Whoa I don’t think you were rude at all OP. I thought the posters basically ignoring your question and giving their ‘oh silly hamster’ advice were not particularly helpful in assuming they knew a better course of action for your child than you did. And as for the people coming on to say ‘oh I was going to help but you don’t deserve it now’, how unbelievably petty. If that’s how you feel just say nothing at all rather than kick the OP when she’s down.

Good luck finding a replacement OP - hope it works out for you.

Thanks HipHop. Gonna go and do what I was supposed to be doing with DD2 for a bit now, and hope no-one else takes umbrage in the meantime. Just in case anyone thinks I'm flouncing, I'm not.

You need to post a picture of the culprit.

Oh op I get it - really sorry about this

Have you tried reverse image searching on the fabric? Might turn up some results

how is me saying 'I'm sure you mean well but that wasn't the help I asked for' snarky? Genuine question.

That isn't what you said, that's why.

Is this it?

Hi all,

The OP started this thread in a bit of a rush, realised she got the tone wrong, had a name-change fail, and is now worrying about this as well as her DD's shredded blanket! All in all, not a good day.

We've agreed to nip this in the bud - we're here to make parents' lives easier, not more stressful.

Thanks to everyone who gave suggestions on where to track down a replacement blanket.

OP, we hope you find one!

@DawnMumsnet I think I've found it

@Mij @DawnMumsnet before you zap the thread - is it the one above?

@AintOverUntilTheCatLadySings

Is this it?

Ooh, have you found one, AintOverUntilTheCatLadySings ? We can't see any picture attached to your post.

Will leave the thread up for a few more minutes, just in case!

@AintOverUntilTheCatLadySings

Is this it?

YES!! Where did you find it? THANK YOU!! I can't do proper image searches on my phone at the moment because my browser's borked (old operating system, old phone)

@DawnMumsnet @Mij it's on Facebook marketplace if you want to try messaging them www.facebook.com/marketplace/item/3565157236890195/

Thank you @DawnMumsnet

@AintOverUntilTheCatLadySings Have done, it's a week ago and nowhere near me but fingers crossed they've still got it and would consider postage.