Anyone else feel sooo lonely after time with DP?

[FullHeartEmptyHouse]

Had a lovely 2 week holiday with DP. I’m back at my house now with my DS. Great to see DS again but he has his friend over, and I’m so incredibly lonely!

Does anyone else get like this? It’s gone from one extreme - living with DP - to another! DP has adult kids, so doing his own thing. My son feels weird about DP so I tend not to have them together at same time.

Anyone else?

Hmmmm I see my fiance every day for 3 months and then not at all for 4 months, he is in the military.

Yes, it does get lonely but I just don't sit and dwell on it.

I'm really confused, do you actually live with your DP??

I can't say I've ever missed a boyfriend when he wants there and never missed my exH either. I love my own company. Ever the romantic I am 🤣

I’d say it’s more unusual to have never missed a partner when they’re not with you! I don’t sit paralysed with longing or anything but I always miss DP when he’s not with me, even if it’s just those moments of thinking of something you want to say to them, or point out...it’s normal! And I LOVE time on my own, it’s not like I can’t be alone, it’s just nice to have him around.

I agree @Michaelbaubles it is unusual. But it's just the way I'm built 🤷‍♀️ maybe if Rob Lowe or Jason Momoa we're my SO I would miss them it's probably why I'm genuinely contented being single (although I miss intimacy I'll admit)

No, and my husband is ex military. I just got on with it, work friends, and then our daughter, didn’t bother me at all.

@BittersweetMemories

Hmmmm I see my fiance every day for 3 months and then not at all for 4 months, he is in the military.

Yes, it does get lonely but I just don't sit and dwell on it.

I don’t usually dwell, either! The feeling has taken me by surprise!

@GlummyMcGlummerson

I'm really confused, do you actually live with your DP??

I can't say I've ever missed a boyfriend when he wants there and never missed my exH either. I love my own company. Ever the romantic I am 🤣

No I don’t live with him, but I stay in his house/he in mine when I don’t have my son, so about half the time.

Ha ha romantic! 😁

This is exactly how I am feeling at the moment. 3 months of both being home all the time as both of us were furloughed (which was definitely too much time together) but now he is back working it is incredibly busy and they are understaffed and he is doing 12-14 hour shifts most days, not getting home until gone midnight. He hates that he barely gets to see DS other than for breakfast and one day a week when he is just exhausted. I miss adult company.

@Michaelbaubles

I’d say it’s more unusual to have never missed a partner when they’re not with you! I don’t sit paralysed with longing or anything but I always miss DP when he’s not with me, even if it’s just those moments of thinking of something you want to say to them, or point out...it’s normal! And I LOVE time on my own, it’s not like I can’t be alone, it’s just nice to have him around.

Yes it’s probably normal to miss a partner... it’s EXACTLY as you have said... I miss the little interactions and pottering about together! I didn’t realise how much I’d miss it. Like you, I do enjoy time in my own - just not so much on return from holiday!

Yup I'm feeling the same, we are in a LDR but DP moved in with me from the beginning of lockdown to last weekend as he was furloughed and only gone back this week. It's felt weird not having him around this week although I've come to visit him this weekend so not missing him anymore He works away a lot and we can't talk much when he does so it will be strange once that starts up again but he's not away until the end of September so got a while to get used to it again!

GlummyMcGlummerson

I think Michaelbaubles was saying that it’s unusual NOT to miss them! I miss the banter ‘ore than anything, I think...

Bluntness100 Yes, I imagine if I had a DH who worked away, I’d be used to it. Most of my friends are away atm too, which prob makes it worse...

@Wingingitsince2018

This is exactly how I am feeling at the moment. 3 months of both being home all the time as both of us were furloughed (which was definitely too much time together) but now he is back working it is incredibly busy and they are understaffed and he is doing 12-14 hour shifts most days, not getting home until gone midnight. He hates that he barely gets to see DS other than for breakfast and one day a week when he is just exhausted. I miss adult company.

Goodness me, those sound like long shifts.Yes, that’s how I feel, miss the adult company. I guess when you’ve been together A LOT, it is more noticeable, too. We spent the best part of 2 weeks in just each others’ company.

@carolebaskinfedhimtothetigers

Yup I'm feeling the same, we are in a LDR but DP moved in with me from the beginning of lockdown to last weekend as he was furloughed and only gone back this week. It's felt weird not having him around this week although I've come to visit him this weekend so not missing him anymore He works away a lot and we can't talk much when he does so it will be strange once that starts up again but he's not away until the end of September so got a while to get used to it again!

Glad you know what I mean! Sorry you have similar. It’s quite a shock to go from them being there all the time, to feeling so distant. Hope September isn’t too much of a shock for you!