Wedding early summer 2021 - keep or postpone

[Bubblesbubblesmybubbles]

All the fun around planning it is just gone - cant even try wedding dresses on with friends and have to wear a mask doing so, dont even know if we will be able to have the wedding we want......what would you do?

I’d go very simple and just get married if I had found the person I wanted to share my life with.

Marriage is about the vows and commitment, not the dress, the party etc.

Unfortunately we want the celebration, it's the only time everyone we care about will be in one place at one time.

We will spend our lives together regardless but do really want a wonderful day with our friends and family

I think I might postpone to be honest. I know what you mean about wanting ‘the day’ I did too, so did the vast majority of our friends, but that doesn’t go down well on Mumsnet. I suspect many people will say the wedding day is unimportant and if you really want to get married then do it small. I loved all of the wedding prep with my mum, mil and friends and I can see what you mean about it not being so much fun anymore. Could you possibly put it back 12 months?

We could do easily, nothings booked except the venue so it almost seems sensible to, wont be having a hen do anyway so that's no issue its just the other bits. Ive been bridesmaid a few times so I know the normal drill and was hoping for that

I know what you mean. We didn’t have a super fancy wedding but for me my wedding day was special for two reasons - first was DH and I committing to each other for ever, but second was that it’s likely to be the only time in my whole life that all the people I love will be in one room together. People like to bash ‘big’ weddings on here and I’m not one for all the bells and whistles, but having all the people I adore together was so, so special.

With that in mind I think I probably would postpone, if you can? Have you asked the venue? I’d be inclined to say that next autumn would be better but obviously I don’t have a Crystal ball!

I totally understand your predicament. I also wanted the big celebration and so on your shoes if you can postpone without.much hassle then I would. At the end of the day if you want a full day celebration with 100 odd people dancing the night away, then a small intimate ceremony with just a fraction of the guests all socially distancing isn't going to cut it. Also it is fine to want that. Just because you want a big wedding doesn't mean you value marriage any less as some seem to think.

Thank you both! The venue cost wont change regardless of numbers of people so even if we were capped at 30 we'd just end up with a big lonely venue with no band or anything which seems a little sad.

I do like to think things will be relative normality by this time next year but who knows! Maybe I'll start with talking to the venue, what's another year when you're going to spend a lifetime together anyway

I'd postpone unless a small wedding with no more than 30 people is something you'd be OK with.

Op im wondering the same. Our wedding was supposed to be July this year. We postponed until July next year and tbh I'm not even sure it'll happen now. I'm not willing to cut numbers realistically either.

It’s so sad to think things still worn be normal in summer 21. Hope you get the wedding you want @Bubblesbubblesmybubbles

I’m in the exact same situation. Our wedding was meant to be July this year, however we have had to postpone until July 2021 due to COVID. Our wedding is a fairly large one 100 guests in the day, 150 in the night. I’m so scared that it won’t be able to go ahead next year

@thorandluna and @Trustthegenegenie are you planning to hope the for the best or hold it off til 2022?

Thank you @ruabon1 and @RosieLemonade

Honestly I don't know. I kind of just want to cancel it, go get married at the register office and throw a party when I'm certain it's ok but dp isn't keen and wants to wait and see. I can't be doing with this disappointment for a second time

We’re really undecided at the moment. Like previous poster said about dealing with the disappointment again it was bad enough the first time around. I am hoping for the best, it’s just worrying with everyone talking about a second spike!

Of course there will be more waves of deaths, the uk has failed hugely, almost fifty thousand corpses and people are wittering on about ‘opening up’ and ‘back to normal, woohoo!’, no, no guest with any brain activity would feel safe attending any kind of mass gathering in the next year or two, so decide whether a party, or the security of marriage is more important. You can do one, and have the party later.

My friend is getting married this october with 30 guests (unless by then you can have more)
Then she is having a first anniversary party next October covid permitting which will basically be her wedding night do

Her Grandma is unwell and old and she wants her there. Everyone's circumstances are different but she said the venue were no more enlighten than she was from reading government guidelines on the internet