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Accidentally became “that” parent today...

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Bereft2020 · 12/08/2020 21:54

I think I am generally a pretty normal, average, reasonable parent. Probably more crap than good right now. I’m not particularly precious. I don’t bother the school/nursery with inane shite. I just get my head down and get on with things.

My daughter was in P1 when the schools closed. Just before that, they were doing their frequent hand washing and her hands were a mess. Found out other parents had sent in hand soap and a wee moisturiser to try to help (the soap the school uses is quite harsh) so I did the same thing and it improved a little bit.

So today was DD’s first day in P2. New teacher I have never met. Duly sent her in with her new hand wash and moisturiser in a little ziploc bag, all named etc.

DD after school: “I used my new hand wash I like the smell”. I noticed it wasn’t in her bag so I asked where it was. “Oh its on the teachers desk” “ah ok, did she hang on to them all?” “No, I was the only one who brought my own so she said she would keep it on her desk for me”

Fucking tremendous. I am “that” parent. She will clearly now be of the view that I am a precious pain in the arse who believes my child’s hands are made of porcelain.

I would very much appreciate some stories of when you have accidentally been “that” parent 😑.

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OhioOhioOhio · 12/08/2020 22:01

Omg. Not a big deal. They all had hand sanitiser with them today.

drspouse · 12/08/2020 22:02

Why does that make you "that parent"?

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Bereft2020 · 12/08/2020 22:03

Maybe I’m overthinking it. I just feel like she probably rolled her eyes and thinks I’m a precious princess.

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OhioOhioOhio · 12/08/2020 22:25

Nah. Honestly, no biggie.

Littlepond · 12/08/2020 22:28

I would imagine they are not allowed to take stuff home and bring it in again so teacher will keep it on her desk. I don’t think you are “that” parent at all - why would you be? It’s really a non issue, don’t worry!

FelicityPike · 12/08/2020 22:30

Anything sent in from home has to remain in school (here at least) to prevent any cross contamination. Packed lunch in plastic bags to be binned afterwards etc.

BlueJava · 12/08/2020 22:34

I think you are over thinking - its fine!

WorraLiberty · 12/08/2020 22:37

I thought you were going to say she was dishing it out to her whole class!

It's not a biggie. Perhaps it's easier for your DD to be able to grab it from the teacher's desk.

cathcath2 · 12/08/2020 22:43

Honestly it isn't a big deal. She probably just assumed she has eczema/sensitive skin etc. I couldn't use the soap they bought for the staff room (until they switched to a different one) as it made me come up in hives. I'm not a princess Grin

sadpapercourtesan · 12/08/2020 22:46

Honestly, you'll have to do better than that if you want to be "that parent" Grin

The teacher won't be thinking anything about you!

Pomegranatemolasses · 12/08/2020 22:55

Believe me, that does not make you 'that parent'! You've a long way to go. Totally overthinking this.

SavoyCabbage · 12/08/2020 23:06

It’s just easier to keep it there than it is for your dd to have to get it out of her bag every single time.

Teacher’s desks are full of items that otherwise don’t have a place to go. Glasses, those daft massive bows, fit-bits that aren’t allowed.

DaphneFanshaw · 12/08/2020 23:08

The teacher won’t think anything.
Other than “Ahh, it’s nice that they bothered”
Trust me, apart from junk food and umbrellas most teaching staff are more than happy for the odd item to come in from home.

Clearthinking · 12/08/2020 23:10

It would make you a thoughtful parent. Well done I say

Sunnydaysarethebestdays · 12/08/2020 23:11

The teacher probably quite liked it herself so is keeping it on her desk for her to use as well. Grin

SonjaMorgan · 12/08/2020 23:12

I was waiting for you to say you sent her with lube. I imagine they have to be careful. A child in DCs class tried eating a small amount before lockdown, think it was scented. They are a high percentage of alcohol.

Scubalubs87 · 12/08/2020 23:16

As a teacher, I can assure you it won’t have made you ‘that parent’. It either barely registered or she thought, ‘that’s nice and sensible.’

Italiangreyhound · 12/08/2020 23:16

I would take pride in being that parent, and do my best to be that parent as often as I can! (It's a good thing.)

Italiangreyhound · 12/08/2020 23:17

Examples, calling the school to ay nice things, calling the school to complain (not often). buying presents for teachers, etc.

DelphiniumBlue · 12/08/2020 23:26

@Sunnydaysarethebestdays

The teacher probably quite liked it herself so is keeping it on her desk for her to use as well. Grin
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Bereft2020 · 12/08/2020 23:29

Oh god I feel really relieved Grin

Anyone who has kindly contributed to my other thread will know I’m not in the best of shape right now. I’m overthinking everything and “catastrophising” apparently

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suze28 · 12/08/2020 23:32

Another teacher here who wouldn't think anything of it. Just before lockdown I had two different hand creams in my top drawer that were brought in for children who were developing sore hands. It's normal.

Bowerbird5 · 12/08/2020 23:44

HLTA here. I would have thought “ Wow that mum has even remembered hand wash and cream. Impressive.”

Pomegranatemolasses · 12/08/2020 23:50

Hey, I’ve just seen your other thread, and you are boing so harsh on yourself. Sounds like your life is really tough at the moment, and I do also think you sound like you’re possibly suffering with anxiety, even mild depression. Maybe a visit to GP is in order? Catastrophising is a sure sign of an anxiety disorder. Please be kind to yourself and seek a little help.

ComeOnBabyPopMyBubble · 13/08/2020 00:12

Two reasons:

1.cross contamination
2.so DD gets to actually use her soap,not wash once and then have the bottle finished in one day by the other kids. Honestly, they're like locusts.Grin

I work in a school, we have kids with their own soap, some staff brought their own soap too and we also have hand creams available for sore hands.

I also sent DD with her own soap in Reception and y1 because her hands would get really sore.

Don't worry about it, you're not that parent...yet.Grin