How to go NC with toxic family

[bokchoy]

I have come to realise how toxic my family is, is not good for my mental health. It would be far too much detail to go into if I started at the beginning, but I've gone through so much because of some of my family members (my mum included).
I'm pregnant at the moment and OH is supportive and his family are just amazingly supportive.
I think his family being so "normal" has made me realise even more so how much crap I put up with.
I think it's time to go NC or at the very least absolute minimal contact.

I just wanted some advice/tips on how to successfully do this?
I worry I will feel guilty. I went NC with our dad (he left us when I was 16), but every now and again I give in and "open the lines of communication".
My brother has been successful in NC with our dad but he doesn't give the best advise and literally just says he couldn't care less.

Don't make any big announcements just fade away.
Maybe you will feel guilty but I guess that depends on the you and how bad they are.

We have gone low and contact with nasty relatives.
It feels wonderful. It's so awful to be shackled to people who make you feel bad every time you see them. AND society makes us feel bad.

I'm see everyone as a pie. Some parts are wonderful.... Some are bad. Does the good out weigh the bad?.

In SOME respects covid has been wonderful for us because its taken the pressure off these horrid people pushing us for gc access.

BTW there is stately homes thread somewhere.. Try and find it. It's about this sort of thing.

Thank you for replying.

I think fading away sounds like a good idea.
Would make it easier as well.
I am taking steps, like I don't always answer phone calls anymore. Sometimes I call back after a few hours (which will now extend to a few days)

I will try and find that thread x