Living with Grandparents and kids going back to school, am I right to be concerned?

[Fightingback16]

I currently live with my mum who is 65 with Asthma and Multiple Sclerosis ( not known to be an illness vulnerable to the virus I don’t think).
Am I right to to be concerned sending my child to school in September. She will me starting reception in September and I’m worried about her bringing the virus back to my mum.

I already work in retail and have to wear a visor so that’s risk already but I can at least try all the measures I can to litigate risk. I don’t expect my 4 year will.

She and I are really excited about her starting school and this is such a downer.

There will be no SD in schools and so I personally would either move (presuming you’re happy with the school risk to your DD and you) or delay returning to school if staying where you are.

The family home is going through the courts as my stbex won’t leave won’t do anything so I have to wait on that outcome to either get equity and move or go back.
I can’t afford to rent at the moment as I need my money for court and my mum is not asking for money from me.

I don’t think we can delay can we without getting fined?

When does your DC turn 5?
If not until later in academic year you can defer until Christmas or Easter.

I have a similar problem, I work in education and have 2 dc at school too. My dh is classed as high risk and we are seriously considering him moving to his parents as they are retired and mostly at home.
Is there anywhere else you could stay or is it possible to isolate yourselves a little within the house? Do you have 2 bathrooms?

Depending on her age, you may be able to delay her starting school. She’s not compulsory school age until the term after her 5th birthday.

Children themselves seem to be low risk - they don’t spread the virus in the same way that adults do. For me the bigger risk is having to mix with all the other adults at drop off and pickup, it’s more likely that I would catch it from the other adults than from the children.

You're not wrong to be concerned OP. We now know that the risk to DC, particularly young ones, is infinitesimal - which is great! However, the risk to adults they are in contact with is more serious and this is an issue that the govt are brushing under the rug. Any time they're asked about schools they talk up the lack of risk to DC, while conveniently not mentioning the risk to teachers, parents and other adults who come into close contact with the DC.

I think if you're going to send her in you have to be scrupulous about hygiene. Hand washing as soon as she comes in, possibly even an early bath so she's clean before she touches your DM. Do they hug and cuddle a lot? If so, you should discourage that once she starts school. As we're likely to be living with Covid for many more months/years we have to put DC's education first, but it's best to mitigate that risk in your home in any way you can.

Your daughter doesn’t have to be in school until she is 5.
Personally, I would defer. Several vaccines are looking very hopeful.

It’s such a difficult decision because even if I did move I would still need my mums help with childcare so I can work. I’m on my own and my ex does not see dd. She does cuddle nanny all the time. There is one bathroom. She turns 5 in June 21.

As she’s summer born you could delay the start by a year. I’d not hesitate to do that in your circumstances.

Delay until Easter.

She turns 5 in June 21.

That's perfect. I'm pretty sure she could keep her school year group place and start after Easter 21.

Yeah in your circumstances I’d defer. A lot of people choose to defer summer born children anyway and start a bit later.

@Fightingback16

It’s such a difficult decision because even if I did move I would still need my mums help with childcare so I can work. I’m on my own and my ex does not see dd. She does cuddle nanny all the time. There is one bathroom. She turns 5 in June 21.

But she wouldn’t be mixing with other children and adults so less likely to bring germs home

It’s really hard OP. We don’t live with my parents but my Mum provides childcare for our toddler. Our toddler can’t access any other childcare at the moment as he is medically vulnerable to Covid and his surgical team have strongly advised against childcare settings until the spring. He would also need a healthcare plan and one to one supervision when eating so it wouldn’t be as simple as just finding a nursery place.

However DH and I are both teachers and our older DS will be returning to school in September. All DH and I can do is distance from my Mum as much as possible. I can’t possibly distance from my toddler.