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Early mid life crisis

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TinyLittleTeePee · 10/08/2020 10:07

If it's possible to have one of these, I feel like I'm having one. Have NC as I feel ashamed and pathetic. I'm 32.

It all started a few weeks ago when I listened to a noughties Spotify playlist and all these songs came up that I remember from my late teens. They just triggered this very deep sadness in me.

I feel very ungrateful. I have a kind and loving husband whom I love and a happy and healthy 5 year old DD. But I feel so flat - like there is nothing new or exciting to look forward to. I've felt a bit like this for a while but that playlist made it worse. I'm retraining career wise to do something I enjoy but it doesn't seem to have helped.

We are stuck in a very small flat which has been on the market for months now (covid means everyone now wants a garden and gardenless flats aren't selling at all in my bit of London right now). I have been with dh who is wfh as well as me day in day out since March now. I am busy with studying and also working in a stressful job.

I realise how ungrateful I sound especially at the moment when the world is turning to shit but I hate how flat I feel. My half sister aged 21 has just got into a new relationship and I just feel jealous of her - I so miss the excitement and promise of a new relationship. Even though my DH and I have a wonderful marriage.

Has anyone felt like this at this age? I feel so sad.

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MolotovMocktail · 10/08/2020 10:22

Hi OP, I feel just the same at the moment, really stagnant. I think life just isn’t that much fun for anyone at the moment.

What has helped me is having a couple of projects that I feel excited about. Mine are to do with fitness and redecorating my house but it could be anything that you can see obvious progress with over a set of small and achievable goals. I find a few little wins like beating my running record, even just by a really small amount, gives me a bit of a lift. Maybe start by writing a list of your interests and goals and see what grabs you? It sounds like you are very busy but even dedicating one evening a week to do something just for you might help a bit.

TinyLittleTeePee · 11/08/2020 10:14

every day I wake up feeling worse

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MolotovMocktail · 11/08/2020 10:36

Could it be depression? Might be good to speak to your GP.

KittCat · 11/08/2020 10:37

Existential crisis...

morriseysquif · 11/08/2020 11:12

It's the times sadly. 😬
Write a list of the good things in life.
Every day do something that makes you happy.

Get the tunes on a playlist and go for a walk.

Or Take up running. Though maybe wait til the heat abates,

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