If put this in AIBU but I'm not and I'd just like to vent please

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We live in a 20yo house with quite a wide but short back garden. At the bottom of the garden there is a street of between the wars semis with 200ft gardens. Thus the bottom of my neighbours garden is almost 200ft from his windows and only 35 ft from mine.
Since lockdown he's been doing lots of work in his garden. Good luck to him. Except he's an early riser and I'm regularly woken by dropped ladders at 6.20am or chatting or fiddling about. He's had a big brick shed/ garage built and the workmen were really considerate but every brick he laid himself was loud. Lovely man. Irritating as shit as a neighbour.
Young couple next door. Both been furloughed. Bought themselves an inflatable hot tub and have built a base for it from pallets against our fence. Lovely couple, completely oblivious to the noise.
All three sets of neighbours: all completely lovely people. I don't wish them harm, but they have fairy lights/ outdoor lights whether or not they are outside just to irritate me and confuse wild life. I am exhausted: early in the Morning with ladders and builders, late at night with hot tub. Aall night with lights.
I'm wfh. Long days, technically a key worker. So very tired. It's as if they have got together and decided how to prevent me sleeping in the nighttime or early morning, how to prevent me concentrating most of the day)( builders etc), and how to spread everything between them so I'd seem unreasonable mentioning any of the ( individually trivial) issues.

As it is I'm getting less than 5 hours a night sleep, working 10-12 hour days, and am on the verge of homicide.

Help me please, or at least recommend noise reducing headphones. Thanks

I sympathise with you - not getting enough sleep is very draining. Have you tried having a word with them (depends on how well you get on with them)? If the hot tub finished a little earlier and the work started a little later you would have more sleep. Noise cancelling headphones are very hot to sleep in at this time of year. Maybe try a fan or white noise machine? Not sure why the lights are bothering you - are they very bright? Thicker curtains or just putting thick fabric, like a towel over the curtain pole might help?

Lights should be off at night.

Maybe have a cuppa over the fence with each of them separately.. ask for the work in the garden not to start before 8 and for the hot tub to go off at 10pm during the week. I am sure if you explain that it's a combination of being at home 24/7 and each one being considerate at opposite ends of the day, it will make sense to them. R

This is a great white noise video - it’s 8 hours of a waterfall. We have it on every night - it really helps me to sleep. I’d also try a blackout blind, maybe even one of the ones you get got kids that attach to the window with suckers. You should be able to get one secondhand for not too much.

I’d talk to the neighbours too (I know they’re the ones being inconsiderate but I find taking cake round really helps people to feel like they’re not under attack and thus get defensive and entrenched) but white noise and a blackout is something you can actively do without their help, IYSWIM.

Ear plugs and black out blinds!

Apart from that tell neighbour work shouldn't start until (think it's 7am?) and tell other neighbours to switch off lights when done. Also tell them it's a fire risk to leave them on all night and if they set fire to the street they will be responsible and their insurance will be sky high forever more!

What kind of lights are they? We've got solar light posts in the garden which we have no option to turn off during the night. But I wouldn't say they were particularly bright they only light up a very small patch of grass each.
Buy a black out blind if it bothers you you can get a suction cup gro blind on amazon for about £15 that blocks out any and all light.
And get noise cancelling ear plug type things. Unfortunately with the hot tub it's in their garden so nothing you can say with placement

What everyone else has said re blackout blinds and white noise. Tbh the lighting and hot tub neighbours aren’t being especially inconsiderate- they’re entitled to enjoy their space and it’s just unfortunate for you that you’re being hit with this triple whammy.

On the other hand. Early bird neighbour who is clanking around the garden at 6am IS being unreasonable because that is completely anti social and most likely outside council guidelines for building work etc. When we had an extension done it was a condition of planning permission that work could start no earlier than 8am on weekdays and I suspect that’s a fairly standard guideline. So it is probably worth just having a gentle word with the early bird neighbour and asking if he can delay starting work till 8am.

Update. Young couple neighbour has started a carpentry business from home. I'm now locked in my home with all the windows and doors shut for 12 hours a day whatever the weather as no meeting can be done from home with the unexpected screaming of power tools on the drive/ in his open garage as it reverberates round the cul de sac. Bottom of the garden neighbour is digging something with a hired mini digger which beeps in reverse from 6.20 every day until he goes to work at 8am during the week or until 10ish at the weekends.
I completely acknowledge that if I were not working from home I'd be up at 6 am and out by 6.45 off to work away from the loud carpenter during the week, and that if my bottom of the garden neighbour is keen on improvement I should be pleased. So I'm here to rant. It's unfixable as I need to keep them all sweet. I'm just a bit tired/ broken and weepy 😒
But. I'm . Stuck. Here,
All good people. Individually probably not significant. In combination they make me want to do them all harm.

God op that sounds really tough. All I can suggest is that you speak to them and explain the impact on you. Maybe by letter or text so you can clearly explain yourself.

Your neighbour starting working so early in the garden and your neighbours running a noisy business from home are both breaking environmental health rules, so if politely talking to them does not work, you may have to escalate it to the council.

Your council's website should tell you when builders are allowed to start working. It's 8am on weekdays in our area. Then tell them that they are waking you up and shouldn't be using power tools before 8am (or whatever).

As AntiHop said you could go to the Council is they carry on being noisy so early.

Can you book a cottage in the middle of nowhere for a weekend to catch up on sleep?

Co tact the council about both - against regulations for working at 6am and running business from home - may need permission,